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What would you think

(10 Posts)
M0naLisa Mon 01-Apr-13 03:02:12

If your DH went out drinking with friends and didn't come home until 9am the next day?
'Lost' his phone and couldn't even get in touch to tell you where he was, leaving you worrying about where he was. You ask on Facebook if anyone has seen him and you get told he was last seen leaving pub at 10:30.

He comes home and says 'fell asleep at a mates no big deal'

Would you take that as 'oh ok darling no harm done'

Or 'hmm really?'

Btw he has form of cheating!!

M0naLisa Mon 01-Apr-13 03:05:29

Also must stress this ISN'T MY HUSBAND!

It's my best friend.

I know he has form as 7 years ago I found something out, told my ex who was my boyfriend at time (in secret I may add) who then told best friend husband (then boyfriend) that I knew something and friends husband told me something happened on a stag weekend away. Others things have happened. He used to do this all the time.

M0naLisa Mon 01-Apr-13 03:05:44

Best friends husband*

AnAirOfHope Mon 01-Apr-13 03:07:21

Who did he leave the pub with?

Can friend comfirm?

Is it worth a relationship if the other person stays out, makes you worry and has cheated?

AnAirOfHope Mon 01-Apr-13 03:09:31

If its not your dh stay out of it and support your friend when she wakes up to the twat.

M0naLisa Mon 01-Apr-13 03:25:10

I am keeping out of it. I texted her to see if she was ok and she said yeah fine. I spoke to one of our mutual friends who knows what he's like and she said we've just to be there as one day she will wake up to what he's like. :-(

I feel like I'm betraying her as we know something and she doesn't but then if it ever came out that we knew something then would she fall out with us for not telling her but then if we told her do we risk her falling out with us too :-(

Can't win. Just awful seeing her been taken for a fool.

BicBiro Mon 01-Apr-13 11:06:19

ooh this is so tricky. I can't imagine keeping something like this from my best friend. however I do think there is 'room for doubt' in the info you have so she may choose to ignore it this time. if you get more info which makes it more certain then perhaps reassess the situation?

JaceyBee Mon 01-Apr-13 11:11:55

Yeah I mean it doesn't look good but you don't actually know what he did, and it looks worse to you only because you know about the previous times, without them it's more plausible that he did genuinely fall asleep at a mates. Some people don't want to see what's in front of them and will just bury their heads in the sand, all can do is be there if/when it all does come out. And maybe you don't have to tell her you had suspicions for years!

SolidGoldBrass Mon 01-Apr-13 11:37:24

Nothing you can do. You are not the Relationship Police and it isn't really any of your business to interfere.

M0naLisa Mon 01-Apr-13 12:08:23

I think I'm just gunna have to be there for her when/if it all does come out

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