Not a regular poster but a regular lurker and need to get this straight in my head.
DP and I been having problems last 18 months or so, after one evening when he treated me particularly shittily that was it, I was off. However we went to relate instead - it was very hard but I surprised myself by falling back in love with him.
He works away in the week, no evidence of any playing away, but my gut has always wondered.
Was in a bit of emotional state last night (not DP related) he had gone to bed and left me to it and left his phone.
I know it was wrong to look at his messages, very wrong indeed.
But texts at 1am in the morning to a woman just saying "Night. X". Reply from her the morning after just "morning X". These texts are 2 months old. I want to say nothing incriminating could be very innocent but I cannot think why you would text a goodnight and a kiss to anyone other than someone you are involved in. He doesn't put xs on his texts to me unless he is feeling particularly loving!
There were also texts to another woman making arrangements for lunch in a certain pub and him thanking her for making time for him to talk, followed by her thanking him for lunch.There is no mistaking the pub in the texts, it has a very unusual name. This has never been mentioned at all.
In a conversation with DP earlier, he very very clearly said he has never been to this pub, ever. Liar.
I am totally bewildered now. I don't know how to raise it, as I shouldn't have been snooping, that was very wrong. And I expect to be flamed for it. But how can I leave 1am good night texts? WTF is going on?
Half of me wants to just bugger off (thought of losing my DSCs v painful), half of me wants just to stick my fingers in my ears and pretend it never happened and another half wants to just say and who is (insert text lady's name).
Sorry for the ramble. Am just totally bewildered.
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He's lied to me. Now what.
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Iwouldratherbemuckingout · 31/03/2013 23:20
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