the dcs (4 and 7) have had 3 parties since they finished school on Thurs!And they have another tomorrow which they are both invited to, early start at 9.
Usually I would get bank hols off but I have to go into work. I was hoping to go in about 7 and be home about 1 so I wasn't spending all day at work.
However, party at 9 has scuppered that so I was planning to take dcs, drop them straight home and go to work, but then I wouldn't be home until about 5.
I had mentioned this to dh, then this eve we were just talking and I was saying to dh 'You realise I'll be at work all afternoon if I go in after the party?' then I asked dh 'You don't fancy going do you?' and dh started laughing and said 'No thanks, I'll have stuff to do here (at home)'. There's nothing to 'do' in particular other than usual washing and ironing that everyone has! Some friends had called round and while I was putting dcs to bed I suspect (although I could be wrong) one has aid to dh that they think he should take the dcs to the party.
So after dcs are in bed I came back down and dh said 'Look, I'll take them, I didn't realise you were dropping such big hints, I didn't realise you were that bothered about going'
Ok, problem solved... but... dh is easily wound up by the dcs (who are nice dcs, they just know dh has never been strict or shown consistent discipline with them so they can play him like a merry fiddle) and if he is ever looking after them when I get back he has to tell me how badly behaved they are and how brattish they are. They're not that bad, dd can be a moody madam but nothing that a telling off and no attention won't sort out..
So i saidto dh while its a faff taking them then going to work, I 'd rather do that than dh take them as when I first asked it was obvious that he didn't want to take them, and usual pattern is that if he does take them out he'll decide as soon as they don't listen to him asking them to do something taht they are a nightmare and soooo badly behaved and then either ring me to complain and tell me this or offload it and tell me as soon as i get home
reading this it sounds totally pointless and daft, but there is real bone of contention that dh doesn't do much with them and if he does I 'm expecting him getting back and telling me how terriible they are (and it rare he takes them out by himself, its usually if he watches them when i go out) and I hate it... we are not talking about 2 horrendous dc, but two chatty, polite giddy children that use their manners etc etc but might whine if you tell them they can't have an icecream at the park or complain if you go for a walk andthey don't want to, thereare no major behaviouyr issues
So dh has now storme doff to bed saying Isay he can't take them out because I think he's a rubbish dad. I don't think that,but I do think he needs to stop complaining so much because its wearing me down, if I get some time out from dcs its at the back of my mind if dh will be whining when i get home.
Fed up because I'm either going to have a long day zipping round or dh will step in buut its likelyhe'll be moaning his head off.
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Had an argument with dh.. started over something stupid, I feel bad but I thought I had a point... uh oh..
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JoyceDivision · 31/03/2013 22:08
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