I have antenatal depression. I'm 25 wks pregnant with our first child and things are going from bad to worse. This week I was signed off work, which has helped me get my head together but is also storing up stress for the future in terms of money worries and dealing with my difficult boss and mounting workload.
I am not a pleasant person to be around at the moment. I have massive mood swings. Can be fine one minute then in despair the next. Can't sleep. Don't want to be touched. Find it difficult to concentrate on anything apart from my own problems. I don't want to go out, see anyone or do anything. I am working on it, and sometimes I think things might be ok. But I feel like I need to concentrate all my (diminished and diminishing) abilities on sorting out my own issues (which have a lot to do with my own unhappy childhood, as well as pregnancy in general) before the baby is born.
DP is amazing. Has been coming to see a counsellor with me. Takes me to the doctors. Helps around the house. But I can see the stress on his face when I lose it again and he has to try to comfort me. He tries to hide it but it breaks my heart to see him lonely and scared. Both his parents are terminally ill. He runs his own business and things are not going well. He has all the pressure of financial, psychological and practical responsibility for his parents, his employees and now me.
I want to support him, for his sake and for the baby's and for mine as well. But realistically I'm in no fit state to effectively help him, either practically or emotionally. Is there anything I can do right now to support my DP while all this is going on? Are there any partners of people with depression that can tell me what would help?
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Supporting my DP while I am depressed
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gertrudestein · 29/03/2013 21:01
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