This will be the least interesting thread opener in the history of mumsnet to anyone who hasn't seen my earlier threads, for which I apologise. I've managed to fall off the end of another one though, so here I am. For the tiny minority of you who actually care and know what TOTGA is, I promise that if and when there is anything to report, it will be posted here first.
In the meantime, anyone want to start a general stitch and bitch to while away the time?
I am ok, I have far too much on with work right now to worry about it. What will be will be etc. I'm going to do something really nice for myself this week and just be positive. Might go and get my nails done or something
Here's to finding the one who makes me a priority! <goes off to write cosmic order immediately>
I think you're right saffron the longer it goes between what happened and him not being in touch, the more I am realising that the idea of being with him may have been better than anything reality could offer. Yesterday I went out with a really lovely friend for lunch for her birthday, and we talked about the book - feel the fear and do it anyway, we were talking about taking charge of our lives really. I have been thinking about what that means wrt men, and I know that for my own sake I need to be willing to say no, that's not good enough, to any guy who doesn't respect me enough. It's not that they will all be bastards (and I still don't think TOTGA is, really) but that's not the point. If I don't raise the bar, even the reasonable guys will walk all over me. So I am raising it, and I am going to trust that someone awesome will be around the corner! I'm definitely not going to meet anyone awesome if I give all my attention to people who have nothing to give back though, am I?
Today DS1 has a trial at a preschool, we're getting ready to go and visit... I am so glad my life is extremely busy, it gives me next to no time to wallow! I would very much like a house elf to come and give me a hand... failing that, is chocolate an acceptable breakfast?
Choco, I agree that the idea of TOTGA was probably more appealing than the reality - it seemed so simple, tying up loose ends, resolving something left unfinished, not having to go through the hassle (and embarrassment!) of dating new unsuitable men etc.
Whereas the reality is that he is now someone with a huge amount of newly acquired baggage, which he had no qualms about dumping on you, who took what was on offer and then didn't have the decency to realise how much that changed things for you.
I'm not saying that he would never have been right for you, but not right now. The worry is that you will move on, meet someone new and he will get his shit together and come crawling back in a year's time, just as you have put him firmly out of your mind!
Let's hope that by then you will be so awesomely successful in your business and so happy in your personal life that you will see him for what he is, not what you always dreamed he would be.
Awww no did he give any decent reason as to why he cancelled? Just trying to really generous and give him benefit if doubt but its wearing a bit thin for you I know. Did you keep in touch with the other nice guy? Gawd I'm a nosy cow arnt I . I'm am notoriously shit at advice but would it be worth putting everything into an email and actually spelling it out to him how it's made you feel. I know he's got a lot on but it might be the swift kick up the arse that bucks his ideas up. I know that you know him well but men sometimes are bloody oblivious to the obvious.
Hey everyone, this thread has gone very quiet. Choco, am I right in thinking that the baby is very nearly 1 year old? Where has the time gone?
Anyway, my beautiful Burmese kitten has gone missing - the nail varnish smashing one, so I am a bit worried about her. She didn't come in last night, wasn't around at breakfast, and still hasn't turned up.