Hi sorry this might be long and im sorry if I have posted this in the wrong place, I just couldn't see any obvious place to post it.
I have best friends who are twins and we have been friends since birth. We are all 26 now.
They both live with their partners, work and have no children. I have a partner, a 3 year old, work full time and I'm pregnant with my second child. I'm happy with my life at the moment. Things could be better with me and DP but we are working at it.
They belittle me at every opportunity. We live quite far apart but meet up whenever we can and I usually take dd with me because she likes to see them. She is a brilliant, intelligent and funny little girl with a fantastic sense of humour. Like most 3 year olds, she has her tantrums and kicks off sometimes when she's being taken round shops with us. This is normal behaviour but they tell me all the time how awful my dd is and im a terrible parent for having a child who has tantrums. They think that I'm doing it all wrong and it's making me doubt my ability as a parent and i can feel the feelings from my pnd coming back again. They slag off my dp, tell me it's awful that I work because my dd will never see me and shes always at my mums, then they slag off mums who don't work and stay at home all day. I just can't win and it is really starting to upset me.
They constantly tell me how amazing their lives are because they have no kids and can do whatever they want whenever they want. I suppose they are trying to make me jealous but im not - a night in with my children and partner is so much more appealing to me than going out and getting drunk. They say I've ruined my life, my life is over because I have kids, I'm going to end up a single mum because my dp will leave when the baby is born because no man wants to be with a woman who has kids (they are his). As far as I'm concerned, my life is brilliant and even though it's different to there life, I'm happy and chose to start a family whereas they didn't and spend their time on holiday and doing whatever they want.
Any idea why they are being like this? It's not jealousy and i dont even know if they mean to be nasty but they are really upsetting me and i dont know how to approach the subject with them without risking the friendship. I need a way to explain to them that having a family is my choice and not having a family is their choice.
Sorry this is so long, any advice would be appreciated
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parisfernandez · 26/03/2013 22:48
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