That's it, in a nutshell.
To give you some brief background, I split with his Dad nearly 8 years ago. DS coming up for 9. He was/is an emotionally abusive bully and, I suspect, is a Narc.
Despite being vile to me he has always been a decent Dad to DS. Involved although pays minimal maintenance, not much I can do about that unfortunately (long, long story).
Several years I had to take him to court to get full time residence of DS.
Now, I thought we had worked hard to put this behind us and forge a decent parenting relationship - not friendly but civil and acting in DS best interests. He's since married and DS has a little brother.
However XP just cannot seem to stop it with the inappropriate and downright nasty comments. He's long since realised I won't rise to his bait so I think he's trying to get at me through DS. It's quite hard to explain; he is never openly unpleasant and can be perfectly lovely to your face while he is planning to stab you in the back.
Anyway, here's last nights little gem, far from an isolated incident unfortunately - apparently, according to his Dad I don't like to spend time with DS and the reason for this is because DS is exactly the same as his Dad so I don't like him very much !
It was obviously bothering him so I gave him a cuddle, reassured him that wasn't true and that he was his own, very special person and I loved him to bits. Then we had another cuddle, chatted about the Easter Hols and all the fun things we have planned and he went to bed happily.
Previous delightful comments have included "Mummy is trying to take all my money" (fat chance) and "Mummy isn't your proper family, the are your real family"
DS doesn't want to stop seeing his Dad as he loves him to bits. What to do?
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XP saying horrible things to DS. How should I handle this?
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flippinada · 21/03/2013 18:52
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