To be a weeny bit suspicious of DP going to work today?

[TallDwarf]

DP owns his own company along with his business partner. He does sometimes work weekends but its always from home, today he has gone in to work in one of their popular city locations. It was a last minute plan that he announced on Friday. He said he needed a business meeting with his partner, but they're emailing each other every day and see each other at least once a week at work anyway so seemed a bit weird to give up a weekend day for this.

I've emailed him a couple of times this morning but not got a reply, but have had a text from him.

Am I reading too much in to nothing here? Just seems weird to go to work on a Sunday, text me but not read or reply to emails...?

[youfhearted]

doesn't he tell you any more details?
is his business doing well? or don't you know?

just wait til he gets home. if he is in meeting he wont be able to respond to your questions.
have you not been together long?

[toomanyfionas]

I think that if y are feeling suspicious, then possibly something is up.

Where do you think he might be if not at work?

[scratchandsniff]

I think there's something to be said for trusting your instincts. If it doesn't feel quite right then it probably isn't.

[TallDwarf]

His business is doing well, I don't know all the ins and outs of it but I see the pay cheques and he tells me stuff about it. He didn't give me many details about this meeting today, but I didn't want to question too much either.
We've been together over 5 years.

I understand he can't reply to emails when in a meeting but he sent me a text a couple of hours after I sent the email.

I do normally trust him, we have a good relationship. There's just something I can put my finger on about today

[scratchandsniff]

Could him and business partner of been invited on some sort of corporate entertainment I.e. golf day etc? Something that he thought you might have been pissed off about not being invited to or may have stopped him going.

[ivanapoo]

YANBU - trust your instincts but don't jump to conclusions. Any way you can check where his business partner is?

[myheadwillexplode]

I think people should trust their partners. Having to work at a weekend is not a reason to distrust someone IMO. Talk to him tonight.

[TallDwarf]

I've said I do normally trust him myhead, there's just something about today that didn't seem quite right to me. He seemed worried when I questioned him last night.
He's still not answering my email and I've sent another since. If he was at work he would have his email thing open and would have replied by now.

[AgentZigzag]

It's good sense to keep your eye on how things are, but try not to let your imagination run away with your or interpret things as him being up to something.

Keep it in the back of your mind and worry if you see something, otherwise presume there's an innocent explanation for today.

[TallDwarf]

He's just rang and said he has to stop over in a hotel tonight far too much work to do apparently

[AgentZigzag]

Oooh, that's not going to put your suspicions to bed is it?

Is it normal for him to stop out because of work?

[MrsTomHardy]

I'd say go with your gut instinct, it's rarely wrong. Sorry

[LondonNinja]

How odd. Can you meet him for dinner at the hotel tonight?

[HildaOgden]

Phone him and speak to him.

Or phone his business partner,use the excuse you can't seem to get through to dh's phone and ask him to hand the phone over to him.You'll soon see whether he actually is with the business partner or not.

It sounds suspicious to me too.Although I wouldn't automatically assume it's another woman.

[drownangels]

Are you worried there could be a problem with the buisness, that he is seeing someone else or what?
If it seems odd to you then yes it is odd IYSWIM

[TallDwarf]

He does stop occasionally but only if he's working the other end of the country, not our nearest city.
I asked him why he can't come home to work and he said he met a new client today and wants to take him out for dinner to work on getting him board with the company. It's all total bullshit.

I can't go meet him as stuck at home with our toddler.

[LondonNinja]

Good idea to phone his business partner. Maybe block your number? It does seem strange - the lack of information is what would worry me. From what you have said, he is being evasive or, at least, economical with information...

It might be a big business problem, but he could should still share that without giving you chapter and verse.

[StuffezLaBouche]

The facts on their own mean nothing, but I am a massive believer in that instinct and sense of something being not quite right. I hope it works out ok for you OP.

[LondonNinja]

Hmm. Why can't he come home after dinner, though?

I'd be feeling unsettled if this happened to me. Whatever's going on, he's not exactly being inclusive!

[TallDwarf]

I don't have his business partners number and we're not really on the best terms for being able to ring him like that.

I don't know what to do from here...

[WorriedTeenMum]

Three possibles which spring to mind:

1. As scratchandsniff suggested there is some sort of corporate shindig on to which you werent invited
   

1. The business is in some sort of very deep shit
   

1. There is something like a takeover going on. Right now he cant discuss it at all.
   

The over the top cloak and dagger secrecy suggests to me something which will be made public soon. The secrecy is for now not forever.

[CajaDeLaMemoria]

How are you suspicious?

I mean, are you thinking he's seeing someone else, or worrying there is something wrong with the business, or is it just his behaviour causing general suspicion?

For what it's worth, I think he's being far too obvious to be seeing another woman, but calling his business partner would soon settle any doubts about whether he's actually 'on business'.

[Dillydollydaydream]

I'd be feeling quite suspicious right now if this was out of character for your dp.
My dh is usually very open about work meetings so if he was being cagey all of a sudden that would make me suspicious, he's had instances where he's had to make people redundant but he's always been upfront about what's going on.
You know if this behaviour is out of the ordinary for your dp.

[HildaOgden]

Have you any other reason to be suspicious about him? I have to say,I'm finding it quite strange how little you seem to know about his work.Just a couple of things you've said....you don't have his business partners number,you didn't want to question him about the meeting today....is it usual that you are so excluded from a whole area of his life?If so,then yes,it's possible that he is wining and dining a potential new client and is booking a hotel so that he isn't tied to times.

How long would it take him to travel home by taxi?

[LondonNinja]

I think it's a case of waiting it out, annoying and frustrating as that is. Plan something for this afternoon to take your mind off this situation and try to keep an open mind. When you see him tomorrow, see what he has to say. It might be a confidential business thing, who knows? You'll know pretty quickly if it's bullshit.

Ask him for details of the hotel, as well, if you feel he's hiding something. Not being alarmist, but just in case you need to check anything subsequently.

Hopefully, it will be the case that is has been worried sick about the meeting as has gone into himself like a typical man while he gets it over and done with.