Have nc'd. I posted in Menopause about this but a response I had makes me think this may be more a relationship issue.
I had my last period 2 years ago, two weeks after discovery of ex's second affair. I'm 53 btw so it's menopause.
However, since then I have had absolutely NO libido. I've had a relationship with a guy who I fancied like mad but sex was a problem for me. I felt I didn't want him seeing my body, i couldn't relax, couldn't get turned on.
Each time we had sex I kept remembering what my ex said to me before I discovered for sure he was with OW - that he just didn't want to fuck me and this was the reason why I was, at the time, so distressed with him. That was the cruellest and most humiliating thing anyone has ever said to me. I felt ugly and ashamed of wanting him, imagined that he must have felt disgusted by me .
I ended the relationship with new partner a month ago for a number of reasons and this was one of them. I felt like I was deceiving him as he said he loved me, adored my body but I hated him seeing me naked and couldn't relax.
I don't want to be like this, I used to enjoy sex but I literally feel dead from the waist down .
Anyone got any thoughts about this? I don't want this to be the rest of my life - I'm still young!
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I have shut down sexually and need some help.
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Saltpig · 07/03/2013 09:00
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