Trying to keep this brief. Am going 38, 2 primary age kids, been with dh 15yrs.
He is wonderful, does everything around house, loads for kids, works v hard and will do anything for me. I feel very loved and cared for .
We have lots of friends and fantastic close extended family - lots to be grateful for.
However we have massive money problems that feel endless. We also have no sex life or intimacy. I have a high sex drive and crave physical affection. Dh has a non existent sex drive and while he's happy for me to give him a hug he never instigates one. No passionate kisses but lots of loving pecks when leaving for work etc.
I can't bear the thought of living without adult affection for next 20yrs. I want a man who will kiss me and cuddle me and make me feel desired. I feel loved but not desired.
We have rowed and discussed and tried everything to sort our sex life out and I have now come to the conclusion that it is irretrievable. The arguments and dissecting it has just hurt us both too much.
I can't bear the thought of carrying on like this but soooo much to throw away when so much of it is good. I love my husband like family but think the sex and money issues have just worn me out.
I don't know what I am asking, suppose I just want opinions on my situation. I am going crazy thinking about it.
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eyeeyecaptain · 04/03/2013 09:00
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