Talk

i would be too. how to make life unpleasant...

I just feel shaky and sick, I actually feel like leaving him

Being stressed isn't a license to be a cunt and bully your family z. I am not surprised you are upset.

I would be furious too. How dare he bully his children and disrespect you in that way? He sounds like a right joy-sucker.

Disgusting behavior - he had better be contrite about this and mortified and embarrased. I have been stressed +++ at work recently and i am ashamed to say i have had zero patience with DD (7) and have been a cunt on a stick to my DP. But i recognise this and have taken steps (seen my Dr for one thing) to try and put this right - told my DP i am so sorry etc. If your DH cannot do this then I would not blame you if you DID leave.

No don't leave but tell him to pack a bag and go and sleep under his desk or in his van. You can guarantee that he won't be telling his boss to sit on the fucking chair tomorrow. Or telling his secretary that he'll speak to her however he wants to speak to her/him.

He has real issues with apologising and/or admitting he was wrong. Practically I don't think we could leave and I don't think I could ask him to either but I really fucking wish I could at the moment!

Have been here myself as hard as it is i have found not getting into it right there and then helps. Give it some time an hour or so and then say you need to talk about it . Calmly explain how upset he is making everyone and ask him what is REALLY wrong . I know this is hard when all you want to do is pack his bag for him but trust me in the long term it works and he must at some point say he is sorry to the children very important .

He has stormed off upstairs to the bedroom, as if I'm the one being unreasonable, I feel like going up there and telling him he's a cunt

excellent post pinkpaws and yes, he must apologise to the kids and make sure this doesn't happen again. You could talk about strategies to ensure that if things are getting too much (my DD really pushes my buttons when i am stressed ) even if he just goes for a walk.

Hes acting like a child... I really wouldn't stand for it.

I could understand if they were being naughty but they were being lovely, just telling me how happy they were

Is this a one-off?

Maybe he is embarrased - could you swallow your pride, make him a cup of tea (i know i know!) and tell him that this HAS to be discussed.

He goes through bad tempered/moody phases, usually every 6 months or so and last for about a week, life gets really difficult then he's fine again,

Is there a reason for this? Does he have appraisals at work at those times?

I'm sick of having to be the one who tries to make up, or if I want to discuss it he somehow manipulates it to try and make it seem like it was me in the wrong, or it just fizzles out and we start talking again and it's not discussed again.

Maybe tea and discussion called for when he has calmed down. Not good though...

He owes DC and I an apology, I'm fucking sick of him.

I agree with talking to him calmly. If he's fine the vast majority of the time I'd want to know exactly what is making him behave in such an awful way.

Why would it be difficult to leave?

I couldn't afford to leave, I'm a sahm.

Yes he does need to talk and apologise for his behaviour. The dc cannot grow up thinking its normal to just shout and swear at people

Does he want his dc to behave like this when they are older?

He has to try to communicate more. We all make mistakes but in order to stop repeating them he needs to figure out why he does it and what he can do as an alternative to taking it out on the kids.