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WarmFuzzyFun Sat 23-Feb-13 17:27:28

Here it is...

OhWesternWind Sat 23-Feb-13 19:53:20

Do you think he lacks self confidence generally Velvet? Sounds like the comment about your house might have been a joke gone a bit wrong, but the remark in the pub does sound like he's after reassurance off you.

Scrazy Sat 23-Feb-13 20:02:59

Place marking, might unhide on POF.

I got a message last time I was visible of a 23 year old hmm. If it was his pictures he was very good looking but no way would I reply to him, his profile said he liked older woman. He lived too far away grin.

Snapespeare Sat 23-Feb-13 20:06:22

Text from nameless. He has a cold. All is (relatively) well. I'm laying off for a bit... Not going to pester him, see how it goes. <insouciant>

western I got your other hand sweetie. No bottling. Sort it. Remember, faint heart never did shit. Confront fears, get them done. Either way, you'll feel better. Might not seem it, but you will. Be brave. smile

lubey <stealth-hug>

velvs the builder comment would have me a bit hmm oh I really hope it works out for you and cuthbert. I think a three week gap might be a good thing, give you some breathing and thinking space. smile

Scrazy Sat 23-Feb-13 20:10:21

Western, I agree you should sort it out now.

VelvetSpoon Sat 23-Feb-13 20:19:37

Western, you're not going to bottle it, not with me and Snape holding your hands for you smile sometimes things seem worse before we do them, so mentally we tell ourselves it will hurt and that makes us even more reluctant, but the reality is rarely as bad as we fear it will be <squeezes hand>

Maybe there is a bit of a confidence thing going on with C? I don't think the house thing was meant in a mean way, he has always been really lovely about my house and how nice it is (but it is v obviously unfinished and needs lots of work til its 'done') He made a little comment the other week when I cooked for him about how I'd done this lovely thing for me and he felt like he had so little to offer me...I don't know. Snape maybe you're right about a little break being a good thing for me. Glad you heard back from Nameless btw, though shame about his cold.

AndLibbyMakesThree Sat 23-Feb-13 20:24:13

Western, it was brave of you to call - typical that he was up a ladder! Hope he rings back soon and you feel able to talk to him about things. I had to have a tricky conversation with Mr C this week, and I found it really agonising at first, but I'm glad I did it, otherwise I'd have just kept worrying about things.

I had a fun day with Mr C and his DC, though I have no idea what they thought of me, and I was pretty nervous. Also, it was SO hard not to be able to touch Mr C, as I'm usually quite demonstrative. Had to sit on my hands at one point!

Velvet, it's hard to know what's going on with Cuthbert. It sounds like he's generally keen when he sees you, but you're unsure of what he really wants. Re those comments you mentioned, does he seem a bit insecure generally?

Pomegranatenoir Sat 23-Feb-13 20:37:31

Mr Irish is saying good stuff tonight. I was having a little moan about my ex and Mr Irish was amazing. Shit hope I don't actually start to like him!!! That would be bad!!!! Ha.

micshi Sat 23-Feb-13 20:46:56

Do you ever get fed up of being messaged, both of the men I've agreed to meet I can't really be arsed to chat to, that's not a good sign is it?!

micshi Sat 23-Feb-13 20:52:34

And it's annoying to keep being told how pretty you are?! Every time a bloke says it, I just think of telling him to F off (I don't though)! I'm not sure I'm going to get on with this OD!

AndLibbyMakesThree Sat 23-Feb-13 20:54:54

Mischi, that doesn't sound like a good sign. I tend to find that when I'm interested in someone, I love getting messages from them.

But having said that, there can sometimes seem to be a real spark in messages, but when you meet in real life there's just nothing there. So I guess the same can happen the other way round as well. Is there a particular reason why you don't want to chat to either of the men you've agreed to meet?

micshi Sat 23-Feb-13 21:01:27

Mr.Greek has quite bad English & Mr.Turk keeps telling me I'm cute and pretty. They both sound like interesting men, but I'm not sure I fancy them enough! I think it's difficult to know from a photo and description. I'm sure I'll find out when I meet them!

JulietteMontague Sat 23-Feb-13 21:02:39

Mischi I like a few messages to get to know them a little, but after that unless they are extremely entertaining, I get irritated by having to respond. Constant back and forth, meh. Having said that, if someone was very witty and entertaining then it would be find but most aren't.

Bant Sat 23-Feb-13 21:02:44

Evening everyone. Sorry I can't do a more comprehensive reply to all, I'm on my phone in a karaoke bar in Budapest. It's fun and interesting, and Hungarian karaoke is sooo much funnier than British karaoke.

But fuck I miss my kids. I can only have them those days I'm back in England do I've gone from 1/3 of the time to 1/6 of the time.

Got to earn a living though..

Sorry for the wallowing.

JulietteMontague Sat 23-Feb-13 21:05:38

Also the 'you are beautiful' thing gets wearing, its so generic. They really should be able to come up with something specific about you.

JulietteMontague Sat 23-Feb-13 21:09:00

Bant wallow on. I don't blame you for feeling sad about not seeing so much of your kids, its a huge thing. Would it be possible to jump back and forth for the odd long weekend? Even if you squeezed in a Friday afternoon Saturday that would be great. Meanwhile, I think a loud off key rendition of 'I Will Survive' is in order grin

AndLibbyMakesThree Sat 23-Feb-13 21:11:16

I hardly ever got anyone telling me I was pretty or beautiful...

Bant Sat 23-Feb-13 21:13:36

Having said that, there is a gorgeous blonde smiling at my from the next table. Now I have that awkward moment where I not only have to make small talk, but do it in very short simple words, and even then her English may be non existent.

There is a very optimistic couple singing 'dancing queen'. It's cheering me up a little

KinNora Sat 23-Feb-13 21:13:38

Hmmm, feeling slightly tipsy, may have drunk my cocktails a little too quickly.

Velvet, he sounds a touch insecure and I agree with whoever it is said he thought you might be slightly out of his league.

OWW, hope things are going alright.

Mischi, the 'pretty' thing is them having a bit of an imagination failure and saying what they imagine might get you into bed .

Bant, I'm sorry, that must be awful.

OhWesternWind Sat 23-Feb-13 21:15:07

Bant, that's so difficult.

Libby so glad it went alright! It will be easier next time.

LM hasnt called back.

KinNora Sat 23-Feb-13 21:15:10

Oh I get ' you have such beautiful eyes ' -yeah ? Try being original, divvy.

Bant Sat 23-Feb-13 21:15:13


I do already, I negotiated that the company would pay for flights, and I spend two 4 day weekends in England. I don't get to have them midweek though which I used to do

micshi Sat 23-Feb-13 21:15:15

Believe me it's annoying. It's like it is said because they think they should compliment you, but it isn't very original, and when it is said three times in just ten minutes of chatting, WTF do you say back?!

MirandaWest Sat 23-Feb-13 21:15:43

Just marking my place while cooking and having a coffee table made for me

StellaBrillante Sat 23-Feb-13 21:17:05

place marking smile

...wondering why on earth I am on my house in my lovely home on a Saturday night?!?! (ds is at a friend's and in mind I should be taking full advantage of it with some male company! sigh)
In a moment of weakness, I texted the lovely man (but not spark) that I had my 'first date in almost three years' with a couple of weeks ago. Problem with the an internal wall and I knew he'd be able to give advice...that suddenly evolved into him coming around tomorrow and us grabbing something to eat after. I told him after the first date that I am not ready for anything (liar, liar, liar)...not good!

Lecturer is confusing me: face-to-face he gives out all the right signals, brought up meal-date again the other day, offered to buy coffees, get me tickets for fixtures etc... I am almost certain that there is something about age as he made a point of emphasising (during face-to-face conversation) that in year X he was going XYZ and it was after that conversation (and a nudge from me ref. dinner along the lines of "you come up with a plan and let's go for it") that he finally decided to text me: tons of compliments, etc but it all died very quickly as he sent me a late reply with a 'good night', I didn't reply and haven't heard from him since - that was on Friday night. I just got annoyed that he kept going on about me being so stunning bla bla bla but wouldn't just get to the point and get a date in the diary for us to go out. I feel that he's 'stalling' but I have no idea why?! He's starting to seem less attractive as I really haven't got the patience for this... Any thoughts?

JulietteMontague Sat 23-Feb-13 21:18:26

Bant that's very tough about the kids.
Get the blonde grin

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