I have poted before under a different name about H. This is my old thread here
I eventually showed him that thread and we had a chat about possibly splitting up. Then 2 things happened which forced the issue in my mind. One evening I was a bit upset about feeling an old friend had moved on from me. He had had a rare evening out and a drink and wanted to go to sleep. Launched into a bit of a tirade about how he never saw his friends since he got married (was are a military family and move a lot) and what's more, he would have got much further in his career if it wasn't for me and DS holding him back (he has actually done really well in his career anyway). I was a bit shocked, left it at that, broached subject a couple of days later. To start with he said, well it's all true, what's your problem? Then changed his explanation to I was "blubbing on" and he wanted to go to sleep, so said something unpleasant to shut me up and let him do that.
Secondly a few days during another chat he said he had noticed that he can't be nice to DS and I at the same time. He is either pissed off with me and being nice and doing things with DS, or getting on with me and then constantly on DS back about minor things. Shout shout shout.
I really need to go don't I? A couple of days ago we talked again, I said it's really not going to work. He accepted this but i think he thought everything will still be ok. He was going to change, control his temper etc. That lasted 48 hours as he lost it last night and shouted in front of DS about how we were going to split and sell the house as soon as I move. DS knew nothing of all this and I want him to be told properly. DS and I are suposed to be moving in 3 months to the dream family house. We will have to sell it now anyway as I can't afford to live there on my own.
He is mooching around today looking sad and I am feeling guilty and coming up wth reasons in my head not to go. Pease tell me not to change my mind.
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ivegotaniphone · 23/02/2013 14:12
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