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Sorry, it is me again. This was my previous thread about H, who I initiated a separation from last month. We just had a conversation, because he wanted to come to the house to see DS, and I wanted him to meet DS somewhere else. He doesn't live in the same city, so this is hard. Anyway, this got into a conversation about how I have changed, and then into the whys and wherefores about the whole relationship breakdown.
Apparently I am imagining things he said, I am lying about things, he can't trust me, he shouldn't have trusted me when we got married, he doesn't understand, I have changed, I am not the person I was a year ago, and oh, we are not separating, I may be separating from him, but he is not separating from me, etc etc etc.
I said I didn't want to be kissed or touched tomorrow, just to make that clear, and he seriously said 'Do you know who you are talking to?' - WTF? - and then went on about not understanding what I was saying. I said it was perfectly clear, he should not touch me against my will, he said I was making it sound like a criminal offence, I said that is because it is a criminal offence.
And then some more stuff about how I am ripping apart a family.
Yes, I know I should have ended the conversation, I did keep saying that the marriage was over. I know he doesn't need to understand, but really, I know I didn't imagine things, everything I try to explain is somehow either wrong or turned back to me - I mean, why does he still want to be with me then?? Am I making a mistake? Have I got it all so badly wrong?
I don't think I have. But honestly, he is painting me as completely unhinged (and making me feel it)
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Staying strong - words of advice/handholding please??
snowshapes · 22/02/2013 13:30
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