What would you do if you had an ex partner like this, who had virtually no relationship with your child and you had been court ordered to present your child for direct unsupervsed contact.
Verbally abusive such as screaming in your face that you're a f****g c**t and that he's sick of hearing about the f****g baby while you're carrying that child.
Emotionally abusive...threatening you if you see any friends family anyone etc etc etc
Physically threatening (over and over) ..standing over you screaming, with his fists clenched that he's going to put you in hospital, put your head through the f****g window, kill you while you're curled up in a ball crying
Sexually abusive ..while you're still crying and curled up in a ball forces you to have sex
Who also pays nothing in child support despite being court ordered to do so.
I have my eldely neighbour who used to hear him and found it so distressing that she used to go to the shed at the end of the garden to get away from it. She wrote a statement to that effect and also a second one that he had gone round to intimidate her into withdrawing it. The court disregarded this ..no reason
Also my friend witnessed him threatening to kill me. They called the police 6 times between the initial call and the time the police arrived and the transcript of those calls was read in court and my friend was clearly. The judge refused to allow their statement as they did not want their address made public..pretty understandable and a previous judge had said that was fine and had disclosed it to the court. In the appeal the judge said previous judge made a mistake but 'wasn't to know'
I could go on and on..there was so much evidence against him..
Sorry my last post wasn't very clear My friend was clearly terrified and they didn't want ex to have access to their address but they had given it to the court separately. It just wasn't on the statement.
It is mad...DP didn't see his DD for three months with no issues other than her getting back at him for meeting me (which happened long after their relationship was over), and even then he was not granted immediate overnight stays with DD who was 2.5 at the time. He used to give her back at 6pm Sat and pick her up again Sun morning.
I would refuse to hand him over, I know it's against the law but someone has to stand up for this child and the court clearly aren't doing that.
Lueji my old solicitor has 'unofficially' told me not to comply. She's been brilliant and basically told me to lie low. She thinks ex is dangerous and that we've been horribly let down by the system. But ex is pursuing me aggressively and I'm really really scared.
Nothing has happened to him for not paying. He was court ordered to pay as he pays no income tax (hence why I couldn't go through CSA). The court are aware he earns and pays no tax and that he's broken the order to pay child support but they are not interested.
Yes there was hearing and judge disregarded virtually all the evidence and also ex's behaviour in court which was horrendous. It sounds stupid but it was like being abused all over again.
The original order was initially for 2 saturday daytimes then going into the overnights
The last time ex wanted to take DS on holiday with him (huge risk of child abduction to another country) and was threaning all sorts, I just reported all the threats to the police, then kept DS away (he was already on holiday with GPs) and myself too.
Personally, I'd find all possible reasons for handover not to occur.
The original order was made in August and I appealed straight away but it was refused. Since then I have been stalling and stalling and basically not going to the enforcement hearings that have taken place. This is what my old solicitor told me unofficially to do. She's worried if I go to court they will slap an enforcement order on me, so she said to basically lie low
Ex isn't allowed to know where we live and that's an order form the high court although the lower court keeps threatening that if I don't go to court they will disclose it to him.. but I'm really hoping they wouldn't be that stupid.
My friends think I should go to the paper with our story
His ex had reported him for punching her daughter in the face and I got hold of that official court statement outlining what had happened. My barrister told me it was an open document or something (can't remember the terminology) and could therefore be used as eividence but the judge disallowed it. No reason.
I actually told the high court judge that I was too scared to do handovers and he said that was 'entirely understandable' but still refused the application.