M and I met 12 years ago at uni and became good friends right away. At that time he had a girlfriend at home and I met someone in the first few weeks who I dated for over 2 years. I always thought he was lovely but we were never single at the same time so thought no more of it and just enjoyed being friends.
We stayed in touch and I visited him a couple of years after graduation. We shared a bed, and kissed a few times, but that was all. We then didn'tsee each other again for nearly 6 years but stayed in contact.
He came to stay last weekend and it was like no time had passed at all. We still get on so well and everywhere we went he would hold my hand or put his arm around me. Again, we shared a bed every night and kissed but didn't take things any further. He said lots of lovely things over the weekend, like that he'd always found me attractive and had a soft spot for me, and that he'd been jealous of my uni boyfriend. So far, so good right?
He went home on Monday and I've realised I am completely in love with him. I'm struggling to eat, sleep, concentrate at work etc and am finding it scary as I've not felt like this in such a long time. But I just don't know whether to tell him how I feel as am really worried that he doesn't feel the same and that telling him would ruin our friendship. Also he lives in London and I'm in Devon so that could be a factor in what happens.
So, wise MNers, what should I do now? I have low self esteem and am just terrified that I'll end up heartbroken. Thanks for reading x
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I've fallen for my friend...what do I do now?
FruitOwl · 20/02/2013 19:19
No, neither of us are seeing anyone else, have both been single for about a year
Neither of us have kids but both have nephews who we adore!
Yes to romantic passionate kissing. Twas lovely.
Not sure why we shared a bed both times really. He has a 1 bed flat and I live in a house share, so no spare room, it just didn't really occur to either of us to kip on the sofa I guess!
I know I'm being silly about the whole thing really but am just so unconfident I've got myself into a real state about it 
Thanks for the replies.
Oh FFS just go for it!
Whats the worst that can happen? 
I couldn't live with not knowing.
I had the hots for a girl at work for months but thought she was well out of my league, would never be interested in me, didn't want to ruin a good friendship and didn't have the balls to ask her out. Eventually I did via work email one friday afternoon but she didn't reply..... I spent the whole weekend feeling awful , worried that I had oer stepped the mark and had ruined a freindship. Come monday morning it turns out that she had gone home early on friday and hadnt seen my email, she agreed to a drink the following day and we have now been married for 13 years!
Just go for it, you just never know. You dont want to be about to draw your last breath, thinking................. what if?
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