I know this relationship isnt going to work, big history of unreliablity, cheating(though he says he didnt as we werent actually together, although he was sleeping with me whilst lying about being with someone else), I cant write it all, I have posted previously about everything. After the lastest trouble things just are not the same, I can't forgive as easily this time and I think its just to a point where it cannot be sorted.
My problem is he moved himself back in even though I said I didnt want him to, but he insisted things would get better, roll on 7 months and we are back to square one. Ive told him numerous times I no longer love him and I cant see a future together, but he just says the love will return if I let him try and it WILL work. I think I have just lost all respect for him and have huge resentment, it cant be mended.
He says its not working because I wont commit to it, if I did we could move on quicker, but how can I commit to something I know isnt going to work with someone who I have lost feeling for? We have lived together again for 7 months now and been to counselling but he says I havent tried, which frustrates me alot! Also he makes me feel guilty as I will 'fuck up the kids if I dont at least try and give it a go'! I may not have been fully commited but I have tried to get along, but the negative feelings and resentment are just too strong.He says Im a naturally negative person and never see the positives, but Im negative I think because of all the hurt he has caused me, thats only natural
We privately rent both on tenancy. I know he will not move now and even if he would he has no money at all so has no where to go.
I feel trapped and the atmosphere is becoming unbearable. Any advice??, I work part time but also rely on Housing benefit to top up my rent, how can I get out of this situation, I worry how it will affect kids, but I now realise the way it is now will affect them more.
I dunno if my previous post can be searched for the history, but I really need some advice before I lose my sanity
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He wont accept its over, feel trapped
Bizkit · 14/02/2013 18:34
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