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What would you say to the OW if you could?

(64 Posts)
duffybeatmetoit Fri 08-Feb-13 22:00:57

Obviously you wouldn't because you're being the bigger person/have moved on etc but you can tell the rest of us without being judged grin

I'd tell her: Well Stbxh clearly likes you because when he was having his last affair he carried on sleeping with me but he stopped sleeping with me when he met you"

Anyone else?

AlwaysDreaming Sun 10-Feb-13 00:18:39

Dear OW , ( or sleazy one night pissed fling )

When i first met you i honestly thought you were a man .

shadesofwhite Sun 10-Feb-13 01:24:10

OW, thanks for taking out the thorn in my flesh

Monty27 Sun 10-Feb-13 02:05:26

Hope you enjoyed the snoring wink. Not worth Russell & Bromley boots etc was it, his filthiness, his boringness, and his general pain in the arseishness.

And thanks for getting him away from me.

How's the gutter now you've split up? O and by the way, when he told you he was away with his dc's, he was shagging someone else, who had two girls of her own, he used to come back here to drop mine off with the ow and her dc's in his car.

Oh how I laughed at you.

Monty27 Sun 10-Feb-13 02:11:07

And I feel entitled to say this bit too, because she was my closest and best friend, I adored her,

He used to tell me what a bitch you were, and he was never going to give you the child you so desired, and you were 50 when you gave in and left him, with no furniture, one set of crockery and cutlery, and raiding his bank account, including his business account.

Enjoy your life. Our dc's are gorgeous smile

ThingsThatGoBumpInTheNight Sun 10-Feb-13 17:09:20

Here are the phone numbers and names of all the others, here are the copies of all the chats and emailed pictures, here are copies of all the texts.

You thought you were the only one? Sorry to bust your bubble dear..

Abitwobblynow Sun 10-Feb-13 20:38:07

I forgive you. How can I blame you, for falling what I fell for?

But - he was MARRIED. Why didn't you think of the children? How could you hurt children, how could you put your selfish feelgood in front of them? In that you and I are eternally different.

But I can't even be angry about that now. Even for them, life sends you sh*t; it is how you deal with it that counts.

You got your pain, when you found out he liiiiiied. He lied about how bad his marriage was, he lied about how little I meant to him. Sorry for you (but how I wish I hadn't had you in my life). It has absolutely messed up our relationship. For ever.

ChateauCollapso Sun 10-Feb-13 20:46:58

I have an email address and mobile number for suspected OW. Would love to say fuck off and you don't really want him. It's just flattery and the dick has fallen for it. Won't lower myself though.

ImperialBlether Sun 10-Feb-13 21:03:36

I would say to her that I have email evidence of his other affair which was going on at the same time; this other woman worked with the OW.

I'd also tell her that in fact I kicked him out; he didn't leave for her.

Oh and that just before she moved in with him, he asked if we could make it work again.

Arrgh the hatred never dies!

SpringyReframed Sun 10-Feb-13 21:06:03

I did actually have a rant at OW (as it was before I found MN and therefore did not know better blush but it was actually a quite genius speech even though I say it myself.) It was like another much sharper and wittier person was speaking for me.

The best part was her face when I told her that she mustnt think she was special as 3 others had come before her (I named them) all in exactly the same circumstances, but to be fair they were all better looking but that he obviously had had to lower his sights now he was a fat, old, bad tempered bastard. I finished by saying he was a shit husband, a shit father and a shit human being and she was very welcome to him. It made me feel better anyway at the time and apparently he isnt allowed out of her sight so that will piss him off greatly now the novelty has no doubt started to wear off. wink

financialwizard Sun 10-Feb-13 21:34:03

Ow I pity you.

BoomBoomBoom Sun 10-Feb-13 22:15:48

Ow thank you.

If it wasn't for you I would most likely still getting abused physically, sexually, financially and emotionally. As he left me for you so you freed me. Enjoy him.

I also wouldn't have met my now wonderful DP and had my two girls.

sashh Mon 11-Feb-13 04:15:56


Do you know what he does when you are out. When you leave your child in his care? Are you really so stupid that you think your dc walked into a door?

I have no idea why you felt the need to put a brick through my front window, as we have never met it wasn't something I said, what did he say?

And BTW, if you didn't want to be named in the divorce you shouldn't be pregnant with his child.

Yes I did tell soontobeex that you had to have your cunt surgically narrowed because you had been such a slag it was excessively stretched, and you had to pay for the op. It was so ridiculous I didn't think he would believe me. I certainly didn't think he would ask you about it. Or check with the neighbours because 'everyone knows'

Should I expect another brick?

50shadesofvomit Mon 11-Feb-13 10:29:40


Do you know the sex toys that exh used with you were inside of me first? That means you have had me inside of your vagina and mouth.

Do you know that exh asked me for sex at least once a week? And that you are so close that he hasn't even told you about his secret sexual fetish?

You must be very understanding to allow exh to be active members on so many Internet dating sites.

Do you know I own lots of naked pics of you thanks to exh being an idiot? And do you know our 11 year old son intercepted a couple and forwarded them to school friends?

TheOwlService Mon 11-Feb-13 14:43:45

50 Shades
Why on earth would you want to own such pictures, and worse still talk about your 11 year old son's involvement such a way?

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