I'm sure I can't be the only person who has been in this position, so I'm looking for some words of wisdom / comparative tales please.
My partner and I have been together for nearly 4 years. To begin with it was the most wonderful relationship I have ever been part of, he made me feel completely loved - I internally mocked my ex who'd told me my expectations were too high, that I desired a Hollywood romance that didn't exist, because - this was it, I was living it!
We moved in together and life got in the way. That's fine. However, as he has now admitted, he got smug, arrogant and lazy - he took me for granted, stopped kissing me, stopped paying me attention, stopped being intimate, sex became sparse and not particularly intimate when it happened etc
I told him this was happening, I asked for him to sort it out - but apparently he just didn't think he'd ever lose me.
(Well why the f* not?!)
Anyway, we've got to the point where my barriers have gone up and low and behold, he finally realises he has been a rubbish boyfriend, has apologised lots and his trying his absolute best. It's everything I've ever wanted like my boyfriend, or my boyfriends love for me at least has been switched on.
But my barrier won't go down. Whenever he softly strokes my face or hair - although it feels nice - it's tainted by a niggle in the back of my head saying 'but why haven't you been doing this for the past two years'?
Without meaning to sound melodramatic, it feels like he has blown my light out. I want it to be reignited. How the hell do I stop being such a stubborn madam so it can be?
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How do I stop being stubborn?
missmaryp · 06/02/2013 08:12
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