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F*****G B*****D!!!

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Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 19:40:17

I want to scream and if I didn't feel so poorly right now I would....

Vile EA husband!!!

We are in the process of splitting up, still living in the same house.

Today I went into my jewellery box for something and could not believe it when I discovered my wedding, engagement and eternity rings gone! £4000 worth of rings, taken by him!

I went looking and couldn't ind them but instead found my notes from my CAB meeting 2 weeks ago, ATM balance receipts showing my bank balance and receipts for things I've bought....!

Oh and not to mention his porn DVD stash which would explain why the vile pig has rejected me sexually for the past 3 years, calling a vile fat Cnut and telling me how I've let myself go after having our son! He's been getting off on porn instead!

Oh my god I am so angry and teary at the same time. I wish my parents were alive, I need them so much!

I have moved the rest of my jewellery, important paperwork, certificates and passports to my friends this afternoon.

I so want this over.

Oddsox2 Wed 06-Feb-13 09:55:23

Ladies you have really made me chuckle this morning reading back through you comments - especially pigeon poo Abbier....!

Thank you for a) giving me some amazing support and advice and b) making me smile when all I want to do is cry.


Januarymadness Wed 06-Feb-13 07:43:01

Man i got deleted 3 times. I only told him to f off once

NettleTea Tue 05-Feb-13 23:46:48

In many cultures the wedding rings are kind of like some sort of financial security for the woman just in case the man turns into a twunt and she needs the cash.
An I believe in law once the contract has gone through (ie the marriage) those rings are yours
So get them reported as stolen

Angelico Tue 05-Feb-13 23:45:54

Abbie I'm actually amazed my post got deleted as it was positively tame in comparison to most of the others... So I shall stand on the shoulders of giants...

C U Next Tuesday to anyone goady on thread <sniggers like schoolgirl>

<runs away before Rebecca gets me>

SolidGoldBrass Tue 05-Feb-13 23:31:51

Another fairly fundamental truth about domestic abuse: it's often easier for a man to leave a girlfriend who is abusive rather than a wife to leave an abusive husband because men generally have more money than women. Abusive men very often abuse financially - they keep the woman short of money; if she works they might steal money from her... or they might make it impossible for her to work by phoning her all the time in the workplace, hanging about outside it, or locking her in the house so she can't get to work.
This is not to say that men are not, sometimes, abused by female partners. They can suffer abuse and suffer additionally because they are too ashamed to ask for help and fear they won't be believed.

However, this doesn't justify victim-blaming bullshit on a thread when someone is asking for support and advice.

abbierhodes Tue 05-Feb-13 22:59:54

MNHQ--- you missed one! Up there ^ I called him a c u next Tuesday. Very sorry. Couldn't help myself. Won't happen again.

Are you leaving it in? grin

PS...there's another one too where I cursed him with pigeon shit and violence. Apologies again.

Startail Tue 05-Feb-13 22:34:51

DH and I agreed when we got engaged that if we split, I'd pay for half my engagement ring and get to keep it. I wanted to go halves, he wouldn't let me.

We got engaged after six weeks and were flat broke students, £116 was a lot of money.

Our wedding rings were very cheap and are definitely gifts.

Angelico Tue 05-Feb-13 22:28:16

Just got deleted hmm Shall I blow MrKidd a kiss instead MNHQ? hmm

So I'll repeat the perfectly sensible bit of my message OP - the jewellery is yours legally. My engagement ring was insured at now DH's address before I moved in fulltime and insurance broker stressed that under law it was a gift and my property, despite it being at DH's address. If your twunt of a husband doesn't return your rings make a complaint to the police. In fact I would be inclined to make them aware sooner rather than later before he has a chance to 'lose' anything.

JockTamsonsBairns Tue 05-Feb-13 22:26:09

Great post, Oxfordbags

OxfordBags Tue 05-Feb-13 22:23:51

Mrkidd, the majority of domestic abuse actually starts for the first time when a woman is pregnant or after she has just had her child. A time when she is at her most vulnerable, her life as she knows it os being turned on its head, she may have little or no money of her own and be financially dependent on her partner, And then there is the mental aspects of abuse. It works like Stockholm Syndrome. Also, do you know how many women are killed by partners weekly?
The majority of murder in this country is women being killed by their partners or ex-partners, much of it because they are leaving or have left him.

Asking why women have children with men who then go on to abuse them is about as logical as asking why Mama Hitler didn't abort little Adolph in the womb. They can't see into the bloody future!

Your views are ridiculous and disgusting and could truly set back any women reading who struggle not to blame themselves for their abuse and to find some small part of themselves their abuser hasn't destroyed yet within themselves to try to leave him. Furthermore, repeatedly commenting about why you can't understand why women don't leave abusers as easily as a bloke with no ties can dump a dodgy new girlfriend does absolutely zero to add to this thread. You are commenting to belittle the OP, nothing more. A thread about the difficulties of leaving an abuser are not the appropriate place to disperse your gems of wisdom.

OP, well done. You are leaving this twunt and at leat now you have the true measure of what a shit he is. I agree that you should report him for theft. Keep strong.

Angelico Tue 05-Feb-13 22:19:10

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QuietNinjaTardis Tue 05-Feb-13 22:17:32

Thank you rebeccamumsnet wine

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:17:29

Thank you xxxx

MyHeadWasInTheSandNowNot Tue 05-Feb-13 22:14:51

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puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Tue 05-Feb-13 22:14:45

Odd my apologise for not having addressed you on your own thread!

I am very sorry you have been through all of this, and am even more sorry that when you came looking for support someone decided to spoil your thread.

You should report it as a theft. That is what it is. Also your Ex is a massive penis!

PeppermintPasty Tue 05-Feb-13 22:14:05

OP, just to reassure you on the rings, the exact same thing happened to a dear friend who was splitting from her EA fuck-up of a man. She reported it and it was treated very seriously by the police, and was later used evidentially in the various court cases. All about control of course, madness borne out of supreme arrogance I daresay.

Good luck.

Cocktailsorcakes Tue 05-Feb-13 22:13:48

Just done a quick google and yep legal precedence state they are yours.

Call the non emergency police number when you are ready and if you feel inclined warn your twunt if they are not returned you will report them stolen.

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:11:35

Abbier for the first time today I have laughed, thankyou!!

And thankyou lovely ladies for your support and advice. XxX

SPBInDisguise Tue 05-Feb-13 22:09:52

Mrkidd are you severely limited in life experience? Or just completely lacking in empathy?

Either way this is not the thread for you to be spreading your hate.

JockTamsonsBairns Tue 05-Feb-13 22:09:47

You can't put your finger on it? There's plenty of literature out there if you were really at all interested. But you're not, are you? You just hate women, so have inexplicably invited yourself on to a website designed specifically for mums and parents to indulge in your slightly sinister trollery.

As I said a page ago, do fuck off. You're not wanted around here.

RebeccaMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 05-Feb-13 22:09:45


Erm, can we stop with the personal attacks please?

mrkidd85 you have mail.

wine ?

MaBumble Tue 05-Feb-13 22:09:09

Awful little man. Ignore OP.

Back to your stolen jewellery, I would echo the advice above, call the non emergency police line for advice. Also as he's shown himself to be such a sneak thief ensure that all your valuables and important documents are found and stored somewhere safe.

abbierhodes Tue 05-Feb-13 22:08:37

Yep, sorry folks, I'm feeding the troll more than anyone. Good luck OP, don't let the bastard grind you down.

I'm off to read about RIchard III- who, compared to MrKidd, is looking like quite a nice chap.

mrkidd85 Tue 05-Feb-13 22:08:13

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Beckamaw Tue 05-Feb-13 22:07:41

My ex hid all pertinent documents under a mattress.
I photocopied them and quickly returned them.
He continued to stash things there for quite some time. It worked out well.

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