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F*****G B*****D!!!

(108 Posts)
Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 19:40:17

I want to scream and if I didn't feel so poorly right now I would....

Vile EA husband!!!

We are in the process of splitting up, still living in the same house.

Today I went into my jewellery box for something and could not believe it when I discovered my wedding, engagement and eternity rings gone! £4000 worth of rings, taken by him!

I went looking and couldn't ind them but instead found my notes from my CAB meeting 2 weeks ago, ATM balance receipts showing my bank balance and receipts for things I've bought....!

Oh and not to mention his porn DVD stash which would explain why the vile pig has rejected me sexually for the past 3 years, calling a vile fat Cnut and telling me how I've let myself go after having our son! He's been getting off on porn instead!

Oh my god I am so angry and teary at the same time. I wish my parents were alive, I need them so much!

I have moved the rest of my jewellery, important paperwork, certificates and passports to my friends this afternoon.

I so want this over.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Tue 05-Feb-13 19:41:40

Call the police and report him for theft?

Lueji Tue 05-Feb-13 19:43:16

And make sure to mention it when you split assets

Horsemad Tue 05-Feb-13 19:43:28

Can you get them replaced via insurance & then sell them afterwards so you haven't lost out?

Doha Tue 05-Feb-13 19:44:16

Agree report to the police. They were your rings, your personal belongings. It is theft. Get him charged

MrsTomHardy Tue 05-Feb-13 19:54:53

Omg...what a cunt he is!!!

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 19:57:54

Can I really get it reported as theft....?!

Yes he is a total cunt and I hate that word but it suits him perfectly!

I didn't want to wear the rings anymore fair enough but they were a gift, and not only that I wanted to save them for our 5yr old DS.

Can't believe he would stoop so low....

browneyedpixie Tue 05-Feb-13 20:00:04

Damn right you can!!

TweedSlacks Tue 05-Feb-13 20:05:45

Thats a really nasty thing to do , Police non emergency line for him IM afraid.
Please change all your passwords for banking , Cashpoint card numbers etc
Remove anything you value ,sentimental or high value to a secure location.

Is there anything of his worth a similar amount , High end stereo , Bikes, watch etc. Might be worth borrowing it for leverage purposes . Yes DH , you can have your Seamaster back, when I see my jewelry.
Feeling quiet angry on your behalf now.......... effing B'd

Trazzletoes Tue 05-Feb-13 20:10:13

Hell yes it's theft!

Get on to Police and then on to your house insurance about replacing them.

Do NOT "borrow" his high value items as leverage if you are going to the Police. You are asking for him to report you as well.

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:11:50

Tweedslacks thankyou. I have changed all my passwords. Guess I'm gonna ave to start sleeping with my handbag bd ipad now eh?

I will change my cashpoint pins tomorrow.

I did buy him a watch when we got married, cost me £1500, do I stoop to his level....?

I have removed jewellery, paperwork, prof of my company shares in his company, you name t I've removed it. I am fuming, if he wants to do it this way, so be it....

deleted203 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:14:57

Yes, it's theft. I would send him a text saying he had better have them on him when he returns or I will be phoning the police and having him arrested for stealing from me.

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:16:57

Think I'm actually more furious that he's been going through my bag collating what he clearly thinks is evidence of something or other....! Idiot! My CAB notes for gods sake....what does he gain from taking those????

browneyedpixie Tue 05-Feb-13 20:20:02

Have you confronted him? Def report it!

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:21:29

I haven't confronted him yet, I wanted more time to search the house and remove all that I need to, if I confront him he will know I've gone looking and I need a bit more time.... He won't be home until late, he ever is...

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:22:40

And a total kick in the gut finding porn DVDs, he's rejected and humiliated me for so long, letting me hunk there was something wrong with me....

I feel nothing for him at all!

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:23:15

Think not hunk! Damn ipad!

mrkidd85 Tue 05-Feb-13 20:58:04

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SolidGoldBrass Tue 05-Feb-13 21:00:12

MrKidd, the only person to blame is the abusive man. He had a choice at any point to stop abusing his family; he didn't take it. Now he is stealing from his wife and child - what a worthless human being he is.

mrkidd85 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:02:36

I'm not defending him - but if someone stays with someone who's abusive and they then get more abusive over time, it's quite hard to have any sympathy - especially when there's the development of a child at stake. What if the child has seen his father be abusive and thinks it's the norm?

PissStickMeg Tue 05-Feb-13 21:02:48

mrkidd - some sort of joke, right? Clearly you have no idea of how an abuser breaks down self esteem so a victim thinks all they deserve is a good emotional kicking? It takes a lot of guts to get back up after that and... I am not quite suer why I am bothering to explain something sensible to a thoughtless lunk like you.

Doha Tue 05-Feb-13 21:02:53

Take your time and when you confront him gice him a set amount of time before reporting it as theft

MumVsKids Tue 05-Feb-13 21:05:21

That was really helpful MrKidd hmm

Oddsox2 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:05:28

I deserve my kidding putting into care...? Are you serious?! Really, thankyou, exactly what I needed to hear right now.

My child has never been at risk. I have been dealing with the deaths of both my parents in this time and have only just found the strength to pick myself up to do something about my situation, funnily enough you sound just like him..."serves you right, you're to blame"!

kittybiscuits Tue 05-Feb-13 21:05:58

mrkidd has anyone told you that you are severely lacking in empathy?

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