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A miserable day

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IndiansInTheLobby Tue 05-Feb-13 14:11:11

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Dryjuice25 Tue 05-Feb-13 14:18:44

Hi. Didn't want to read and run. But trust me it will get better with time. You sound like you're doing well most times.

Keeping busy/occupied is good. You're in the right track. Of course you will think of ex sometimes and reflect on what could have been and feel sad about it. It's part of the process of moving on. It will get easier with time. Keep doing what you're doing. You sounds like a great mum too. Good luck

IndiansInTheLobby Tue 05-Feb-13 14:38:18

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ihatethecold Tue 05-Feb-13 14:42:48

When I had my heart broken quite along time ago.
I knew I want feeling good at all. Really tearful. I decided that I would give myself time to feel sad.
I said to myself that in 6 months I would be ok.
I know for some people that's maybe too long.
But when I got to 6 months. I knew I felt better than 6 months previous.

That may not help you today but its ok to be sad.
I kind off feel sad for you as I remember how I felt back then.
My friends have always helped me through hard times. I'm
Sure they will understand and want to support you.

IndiansInTheLobby Tue 05-Feb-13 15:19:11

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ihatethecold Wed 06-Feb-13 14:11:05

How are you today?
Any better than yesterday? smile

IndiansInTheLobby Wed 06-Feb-13 19:30:26

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ImperialBlether Wed 06-Feb-13 19:51:06

I'm so sorry for you. I think you should treat it as though you're recovering from an illness. As ihatethecold says, give yourself six months to recover. In that time, treat yourself and your child gently. Try to do something each day that you enjoy, whether it's reading a new book or playing a song you love or phoning a friend, and do things that your child will enjoy too. Stay physically close to your son; one of the hardest things in a break up is to lose physical closeness. Things will get better and it's always so much worse if the break up wasn't your idea.

IndiansInTheLobby Wed 06-Feb-13 21:18:57

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ihatethecold Wed 06-Feb-13 21:42:31

But it's so important in the long term.
If you can stay amicable it will be easier for you son as he grows older.
It's hard for you I know but it can be a lot harder in the long term if things become difficult between you and your ex.
Where are you going on holiday?
Somewhere hot. envy

Skyebluesapphire Wed 06-Feb-13 21:53:03

Hi there. i was on your original threads. I understand how you feel. It's the sight if everyone else leading their "normal" lives when yours has been turned upside down. I used to put on a brave face but inside I was falling apart.

It does get easier. I go out nowadays and I'm used to it being just me and DD now.

I hate it when she's with her dad as I miss her but there's nothing I can do about that. Just try not to think about it, keep yourself busy at work.

IndiansInTheLobby Thu 07-Feb-13 06:50:28

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Skyebluesapphire Thu 07-Feb-13 10:37:11

If I start getting down about things, I start thinking of my holiday in May (Cornwall) and it gives me something to look forward to with DD.

I worry too about XH having DD as he spends so much time on his phone texting OW that he is not concentrating on DD and what she is up to.

IndiansInTheLobby Thu 07-Feb-13 19:45:23

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Skyebluesapphire Thu 07-Feb-13 19:57:45

If he hasn't given you any money, then you need to get the CSA onto him. Is he working? The CSA will calculate the amount of money that he should pay to you.

yes, Cornwall should be just me and DD, we went to the same place in October last year. My mum might come for a couple of days, but don't know yet.

IndiansInTheLobby Thu 07-Feb-13 20:07:15

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IndiansInTheLobby Thu 07-Feb-13 20:09:58

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ihatethecold Thu 07-Feb-13 20:17:57

What part of Italy.
You lucky thing. I love it there.

IndiansInTheLobby Thu 07-Feb-13 20:24:41

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Skyebluesapphire Thu 07-Feb-13 20:32:07

Thanks. She is gorgeous and I will never ever understand how he can leave her, or forgive him for leaving her. Another week has passed with no contact. It seems to be very much out of sight out of mind now.... She is the light of my life.

Rome sounds lovely. I have been to Italy once, but that was on a school skiing trip. Somewhere high in the mountains above Lake Como...

Please do contact the CSA, because you are entitled to maintenance for your child and it doesnt affect the tax credits that you get. If he won't pay voluntarily, then he leaves you no choice but to involve them.

ihatethecold Thu 07-Feb-13 21:08:51

I bloody love Rome envy

Ive been twice and will return again someday.
It's so beautiful.
You will be fine on the flight. It's not too long. smile

IndiansInTheLobby Thu 07-Feb-13 21:38:16

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