posted this in "legal matters" but got told to post it here instead!!!!!
Hi there to everyone who takes the time out to read this.
I need advice really but 1st its only fair I tell the whole story.
In 1999 I worked with this guy who I ended up having a fumble with. I informed him that I was pregnant and he all of a sudden left the company. I carried on with the pregnancy and even though even his friends told him that my daughter looks like him etc and that his the father he continued to run away from it.
I have never gone through the CSA as it was my decision to have my daughter and she is my responsability. About 3 years ago she started asking questions about her Bio father so I contacted him on a networking site and said that I have never persued him for money etc but that she had started asking about him and that I would help her find him.
8 months ago I tried to contact him again but he had blocked me. I had no other choice but to explain the situation to his mother who I have never spoken to before and who was unaware of the fact that he had got a girl pregnant. All we wanted was to find out more about that side of her....like is her father sporty as she is etc. But we got no reply. So we waited a few months and contacted his new partner asking for him to contact me but nothing.
Yesterday I went against everything that I beleave in and contacted the CSA. This isnt about me or money. As my daughter has said "I want them to know I exist". The CSA have said that they found him on the system etc with the details I provieded.
The questions I would like feedback on are:
If they send him a letter and he ignores it eg. throws it in the bin what happens?
will they continue to try and contact him?
what happens if he never contacts them to talk to them that his named as my daughters father?
will I find this as another dead end?
This has never been about money or I would have contacted the CSA before but he just ignores me and I promised I would help my daughter contact her Bio father.
I know that he has always denied his her father so he will probably just bin any letter from the CSA
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mydiamond · 05/02/2013 12:25
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