Ok, this could be very long winded but i'll try to keep it as short as i can.
basically Ex dp abandoned us just before Christmas. He fled to a new life and job in Australia. I have 2 dc, 6 & 14. 14 year old from previous relationship but ex dp took on the role of father when he was 5 years old. So after 9 years together and a beautiful dd he ups and leaves Christmas week and has had no contact with children since. He refuses to call them or write to them. I have begged his whole family to get him to call them and have been met with pure malice from them. I have tried to explain how distraught my dc are at their father abandoning them and was told by his family the DC have no reason to be upset that apparently men leave, that's life, and if i was doing my job properly the dc wouldn't be upset at all :(.
Anyway, all this aside, my 6 year old is beside herself with what i can only describe a grief for her father. I have tried everything i can think of to help her and have even started her in a school counselling program but she is just not settling at all. She cries no stop for her daddy and has even started to take her anger out on me telling me she wishes i would leave her too. How do i help her through this? What do i tell her? I know this sounds awful but if he were dead this would be easier for the dc to accept. Right now they know he is just ignoring them. How can any father just walk away from his children and not look back?
Does anyone have any advice on how i get my Dc through this nightmare? I'm struggling with this myself but know i need to concentrate on the children first.
Thanks for reading.
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aven · 05/02/2013 12:14
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