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Dating chat thread still going! Number 39(1000 Posts)
Cont'd from previous thread - Velvet that is brilliant, and not sad at all, how lovely. I'm so pleased he has realised
What lovely news, Velvet, I'm so pleased for you.
Well, the proof of the pudding etc...we'll see if I hear from him later. Hope so.
It's weird cos in so many ways he is nothing like the men I usually go for, he is in no way my 'type'. But he really makes me laugh. And I feel at ease with him. And maybe that's more important?
course it is. Way more important.
i do hope you hear from him
yeah, good luck for my two dates, if i go on this evenings one, it will be 4 dates in 3 days. madness. But there is sun, and i love the castle ( english heritage member... rock on!!) , and theres a nice pub there too. So, can think of a worse way to spend an afternoon.
oh, and ive uploaded the quick pic i took last night. no instagram of doctoring of pics.
Tis on my profile.
Hey Velv personally, being comfortable with someone who makes me laugh is the best thing of all (mind you this is someone who actively seeks the company of those about to shuffle off this mortal coil...go figure..)
Watch, you are stunning!!! Such big eyes! Marine biowhatsit Aussie will be bowled over if you look half as good today. I have to say, that sounds like my ideal first date, and with an interest in English heritage, you'll be able to impress him with your knowledge as well.
And Velvet, yes, someone who makes you feel comfortable and who makes you laugh is definitely good. I don't know if you play poker at all, but I know people who do, and who will always play a favourite hand, even if it's clear that it's highly unlikely to be a winning hand, and who won't play a good hand, because they've never won with it before. These people tend not to win as often as the people who look at the odds of the hand they're dealt.
Oh ffs, watch, have only just caught up with last night's shenanigans
What a prick! I will never understand the way men behave sexually/emotionally, although I'm with one that I love, and I understand more than most, they are just infuriating in the main.
I put it about a bit when I was younger, and I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me. And I used to find it really insulting, like they turned bastard so that I wouldn't get too involved Like I wanted to, you arrogant prick!!
Now then, Velvet that is fabulous news! You trusted your instincts big time on this one, and it paid off, I'm chuffed to bits for you.
SS I will insert the 'some' word for you there.....incase anyone objects...
Hello, mind if I join you? I've been lurking a while and enjoying your adventures, just joined POF the other day, not much in my profile yet, no pic yet folk are adding me as a favourite? What's that about and what's a 'hang out' is that the same as hook up, sorry I'm sooo old!
I think the adding as a favourite is down to 'new blood/fresh meat' even without a photo.... I think (some!) blokes want to strike while the iron is hot, before you get snapped up or totally disillusioned
Thanks snape, I shall sit down later and sort out my profile, it's all a bit scary though
I am in the castle car park.
Hes 10 mins away.
Ive suddenly realised im meeting someone ive swspped 5 or so emails with, this morning!! Probably not the most sensible thing.
Hang out is basicslly sex. As is wants to date but nothing serious. But take them all with a pinch of salt. The clever ones say want long term, when thats not what they want at all.
Sweet, cheers. When he said that i did say i dont know why he had to say that, its not like i had asked him to move in with me.
( i have male friends, ive asked them about this, mostly they say if they sleep with a woman they assume she wants to be with them forever.... egos!!!!)
Flipper. Thanks. My exdh used to say i have tiny pig eyes like piss holes in the snow. He was a charmer..... not!
Marking my spot
Still getting lots of emails from Mr Cheeky (he's not going to give me up he assures me)
Replied to Hughjackmanbarman's booty call text of 'xx' with '??' He was a smoker and I remember now having a horrible taste in my mouth all the next day (although that could have been the vodka/tequila slammers/jaeger bonb combo I had to drink) .. Wondered if he'd reply with who he is but not bothered if he doesn't
Think I am on the sofa for now really CBA
While we're on the subject. Just left remote control man's feeling very deflated. Been seeing him once a week or so for three months, both know Coffee is the
only main attraction.
This morning, having almost drained the cup, he stopped ..... To put the fucking football on!
Apparently I'm a high maintenance drama queen for objecting
Am feeling really sad today. Can't tell anyone so putting here
MrCM has thrown me. I am really good at no strings, always have been. Rubbish at relationships as I'm impulsive and very straight talking. Men like it when it's no strings but lots see it as weird.
A year MrCM has been contacting me, we'd chat, discuss meeting up for casual then stop talking. He is on POF all day every day. We finally meet, all good. Spend a few days being flirty, no filth at all, looking to have the IE. He pops in last saturday, my kids weren't supposed to be here but all were out til 1am. Gave us an hour and we chatted and snogged. The next day - you're sexy, beautiful, more flirty, talking of next time. As the week goes on, smaller messages, answering but one or two words, few questions but nothing much.
I know he isn't a player, I know he hasn't had any action since his marriage ended four years ago. He says he now isn't ready for anything. And he could shag and run but that's not him and he wouldn't treat someone nice like that. Last night he said I'm the only person he has had a date with in four years, only person he has kissed. I think I believe him. He said he talks to people online but doesn't want to meet them
I left it in his hands, told him I am open to friendship, dating or shagging and it's no big deal and I really thought he would contact me today, so far nothing. I don't get it. I don't like it. I rarely meet someone I like, I though my luck would change. Even if it was a casual thing. Why would someone make so much effort to get a shag but then not go through with it???
I have hotbut but all I have is huge physical attraction, no meeting of minds. I talk to him but just want him to shut up and get on with it. I liked all of MrCM
I had telephone call with LennyKravitz lookalike but his caribbean accent was so strong, I only could catch every other word. Felt really stupid having to keep saying 'sorry'. He prob thinks I am airhead with no manners
But all the while I was hoping MrCM had messaged me
I've deleted MrCM phone/email details. All phone messages, all pof messages - he is hidden on there, so won't be able to find him again. Wish I hadn't now, just want to say hi but I know I can't. Have a knot of anxiety in my chest, feel like crying (but won't) trying to keep busy. Do some really have difficulty with being ready for intimates??? Or do we think it's just an excuse?
Thanks for reading, just wanted to spill somewhere. Kicking myself for being so stupid about it all
I have just had a message from an arrogant 22yr old who looks younger than DS. "Had to give you a message even tho you are a little bit older than what I usually go for". Sadly for him, I'm also wiser.
Secret ok so he may be a good shag but if he acts and talks to you like that...
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