...my father and step-mother. My DSM was never able to have her own children and as a result has a desperate craving to be close to the DGCs.
She's not a natural with children whereas my dad is; he's brilliant and very hands-on. My DSM just doesn't know how, despite her efforts.
DD is 2.9 and we are heading over to stay with them today for the weekend. DD is really excited and often talks about Granny and Grandpa, but this week she's really focusing on Grandpa and the dog being the ones she loves, not Granny
She says "I love Grandpa and [dog's name]" so I say "yes and remember how much fun you have with Granny?" to which she'll respond "No I don't love Granny!"
She's also been doing some incredible plotting involving talking about how she wants Granny to take the dog for a walk instead of Grandpa (DSM never does dog walking duty), basically so she can have Grandpa time without Granny there. She also added last night that I should take our dog for a walk as well so it can be just her and DF!
DSM is kind, loving and generous towards DD. I try to encourage them to do nice things together, and DSM often suggests things to DD that she would normally like, but DD just wants Grandpa and isn't afraid to say it.
DSM is clearly very aware of it and says how Grandpa is number 1.
I'm terrified it's going to be horrible this weekend based on how DD's been talking this week. She's a toddler so she'll say whatever she wants to say, but I really don't want my DSM to be any more hurt by it. I'm forever reassuring her by telling her stuff that DD says when they're not around but it's starting to sound false and forced (it's not, she honestly does say nice things about her).
I know I can't force DD to love DSM the way she loves DF, but I really need to soften the blows. Any suggestions?
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DD's blatant favouritism for Grandpa over Granny
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BigGiantCowWithAKnockKnockTail · 01/02/2013 08:39
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