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(6 Posts)
fuckadoodlepoopoo Fri 25-Jan-13 08:05:26

Your partner doesn't believe you!? He actually thinks that you send anonymous facebook messages!? What do these messages say?

If he doesn't believe you or trust you i can't see how the relationship would have any future. sad And then i suppose the inlaws get what they want angry

controlaltdelete Fri 25-Jan-13 08:01:11

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 25-Jan-13 07:38:56

Detach yourself from your DH's family if you're being bullied and insulted by them. Don't give them the satisfaction of a response because that tends to feed the fire. Detach, disengage and ignore. Don't invite them into your home and don't visit theirs. Don't ask them for anything, don't tell them anything, don't post stuff on FB, don't be reliant on his family and be scrupulously polite if you absolutely have to meet up at any stage.

Then make a different life for yourself that is far more independent. Have your own social circle and activities that you can enjoy with friends who make you feel good about yourself. Don't know if 'three toddlers' means you are in paid employment but financial independence is really important if your DH is treating you badly. Also get some professional advice (CAB, Solicitors etc) about the implications of leaving and divorce.... you may be pleasantly surprised and it may give you strength even if you don't carry it out.

YellowTulips Thu 24-Jan-13 20:40:27

What Hissy says.

Stop lowering yourself to their level.

Hissy Thu 24-Jan-13 20:37:16

Delete them from your FB, block them and stop engaging.

Don't cover up for them.

chelly0170 Thu 24-Jan-13 20:32:29

My husbands family keep blaming me for any and everything. Im so easily upset and accused me of sending anonymous fb messages. Now I will make comments on fb because I'm sick if being slagged off and being given dirty looks when I'm out shopping. But my partner doesn't believe me and he takes there side. This causes us to argue and our three toddlers r around.i feel its best I leave as I'll be much happier and it's what his family want. Help before I go into more depression.

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