Every time my 10m DD has an unsettled night, my DH seems to lose it with me. This ranges from him shouting at me 'for being in a mood' or to stop crying.
She's teething so some nights she is up a few times. I always deal with her as she won't be comforted with anyone else at the moment.
Recently he told me I was a 'fucking martyr' and loved wallowing in misery, and to fuck off out of his sight.
Next day all flowers and sorry.
Last night he said I was clearly very unhappy and always looked fucking miserable. Well you show me someone up with a cross baby at 4am who is full of joy.
The thing is, I don't agree. I get down sometimes like everyone does, but on the whole I try my best. I don't think I'm a martyr as I don't wallow in silence and if I'm overly snappy then I haven't noticed.
This mostly happens when DD wakes him up so I'm suspicious of his motives.
If I say I am tired he snaps 'well I'm tired too'. I tried to explain me saying I'm tired is not a dig at him ffs.
He wants me to see a GP and thinks I'm depressed. Ironically it's him that's getting me down. I don't think I have depression.
I argue back with him and tell him he's wrong but he won't listen and just swears. If anyone needs help it's him as he is insecure and has no insight.
Why is he doing this? I'm exhausted. He does fuck all around the house and bare minimum with DD.
I asked him if he wants to leave and he yelled that I was fucking melodramatic. I can't win.
Thanks Mumsnet.
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Why does he do this?
Bathtubbubbles · 23/01/2013 11:09
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