Hi,
My husband struggles to see other people's point of view, and its very hard to have a discussion with him if its not something he agrees with/has a different view on and turns into an argument.
It's really hard for him to see and consider other people's point of view, and I find it really hard to get my point across with him arguing and sulking.
I have read about the different personality types and he had a personality test as part of a job interview once and it basically said he has strong opinions and he likes to get his own way (or words to that effect!) and he struggles to empathize with others.
Don't get me wrong I like to get my own way but am happy to compromise but it works both ways, and I do admit if I am wrong, or if someone else has an idea I am happy to discuss it.
So how do I have a conversation with him and get my point across and get him to understand?
An example is a couple of years ago I was looking through the calendar and noticed he was out on my birthday so I said oh so you are out on my birthday then? He got all stroppy and said well this do is always on the first Thursday of dec! All I wanted was him to ask first and just say I'm really sorry but this do is on your birthday but I really should be there do you mind and I shall make it up to you?
I would have said yes and I would have been a bit upset but just glad he considered my feelings and asked!
So am I expecting to much from him? Any help and tips gratefully received :)
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How to deal with a husband who lacks empathy?
littlemisssunny · 19/01/2013 16:24
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