Will read full thread nd replies after my shift and tomorrow am being taken in with hospital transport 4 by 4 so no replies until late now or tomorrow Thank you all for considering this and thoughtful replies
Sorry no time for reply am snowed in but going to work now I am not happy with disrespect it is intermittent and he won,t discuss it The answers on the thred show why I am ambivalent about what this means, it's not what I thinkis right and I don.t do it myself so obv don!t want him to do it but he won't accept my view, he does what he wants to do
Have on prob with daft apeth daft plank little horror etc at all love nicknames little get is not the same
I think that because this goes with a context of you being spoken to disrespectfully and your concerns being dismissed, you should take it seriously.
I wouldn't like this apparent attempt to 'man up' your child through putting him down and denigration of potential hobbies as girlish - it says to me, your dh doesn't actually like women much, for one thing and is trying to enforce a very narrow form of masculinity.
It's all very destructive to your son's self-esteem (and yours). I don't think you should put up with it.
I accept "git" is used with affection in many houses. Nobody's claiming that it is by itself an act of abuse.
What's behind it seems to be a pattern of OP's H speaking contemptuously to his wife and child, in a way that is distressing OP but is subtle enough for her to find it difficult to put her finger on the exact problem. It does not seem possible for her to have a mutually respectful conversation with him to express her concerns.
Those of you dismissing it may not have experience of being at the receiving end of verbal abuse. The actual words can look mild written down, but having them hissed at you with fury and contempt is a horrible experience.
So OP, he sounds like a male chauvinistic pig which presumably you have known for years. Arrogant doctor and all the rest of it, with apologies to all the nice docs out there. Now you're starting to worry about the way in which he speaks to your dc, so the answer to that is pull him up on it. You actually sound like you're a bit wary of him, would you say that's the case?
Our household is quite verbally rambunctious, but as other posters have said it is fine when done with humour and affection. Don't really use git, when I think about it the most common term of endearment tends to be "Yer daft plank!".
You sound like you are talking about your neighbours or someone you don't know very well, not your husband! Don't you know him by now, how he talks and thinks? My dh would say it too i wouldn't.he says lots of things i don't like but i cannot change him. He is not perfect and neither am i. My dh would call a random woman on the tv a tart . I think that is wholly inappropriate and tell him so most times but that is how he talks most of the time cos it amuses him in his childish sense of humour!