My best friend got with her ex 3 years ago.
It was bad news from the beginning really because he had inly just finished with his ex.
People used to see him with his ex girlfriend looking very close, cuddling and stuff. I saw it too and if anyone ever told my friend, she'd get really annoyed and defensive.
Long story short they broke up. For a few months. In that time he slept with 2 other girls and had two relationships and she sort of pined for him and I could see she was sad.
Then they got back together. He started treating her properly and I started to forgive him. Sounds stupid but she's been my best friend for 8 years and it hurts me to see her hurting. He was making her really happy. He was attentive and we would go out as couples and I could see that they were happy.
Then he joined the forces and turned into an arrogant prick. He would change his profile picture on facebook to pictures of him and other girls.
He started to believe he was God's gift and used to flirt with our friends.
She started uni and I could tell it wasn't working. He never made her happy and he would rather see his friends than her.
He started getting secretive with his phone so when he was asleep she looked at it. There were pictures of his ex and texts saying how good it was when they were together and how much he wants her.
My friend packed her bag and went home. He kept ringing saying how sorry he was.
I was really proud of her. I went through the same thing a couple of years ago and he broke up with me for looking at his phone. I wasn't strong enough to end it.
She rang me yesterday saying they were going to get back together and that she needs help making rules.
I told her that she needs full access to his phone and he can earn her trust back but she said he wouldn't let her. She said she needs to prove that she can trust him but I told her that she can't. He needs to earn her trust.
What do I do? I can't sit here and watch her get hurt again but I can't leave her to deal with it.
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She's going to take him back :(
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Naysa · 04/01/2013 15:57
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