When did you take your wedding ring off??

[LouMacca]

When you agreed to separate or when you actually got divorced?

Thanks.

[SoHHKB]

When I told him I was leaving I kept it and my engagement ring though because he wanted to keep the watch I'd bought him

[MirandaWest]

Somewhere in the middle. Took it off full time when I started dating again after separating so about 9 months after we split up. Had taken the engagement ring off almost straight after separating. Don't think it matters really - is up to you.

[HotDAMNlifeisgood]

I don't remember. I remember thinking I would need some symbolic moment to take it off, and then in the end I think I just took it off some random time on some random day not too long after we split, because there was obviously no reason for me to keep wearing it: it was over.

You'll know what the right time is for you. Go for the symbolic date if that's what you want, or just whenever the moment feels right for you.

[LouMacca]

I guess it feels right now. Just don't want to inflict more pain on H. Plus I can't actually get it off!! :-) Any tips welcome!

[HotDAMNlifeisgood]

Soap? Anything oily, like moisturiser or even butter?

[LouMacca]

Can't believe it's not Butter did the trick. Feels weird. It's been on for over 14 years. Think I will put my engagement ring back on, it's a passed down family one.....

[HotDAMNlifeisgood]

Sounds great, if the family heirloom brings you comfort.

I got over the "feels weird" feeling by buying myself a bunch of different lovely, colourful costume jewelry type rings that fit my ring finger.

[LouMacca]

Thanks Hot that's what I'll do!! Was looking at some lovely rings in M&S before Xmas :-)

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

I still wear my old engagement ring because I like it, not because of any sentimental association. The wedding ring is in my jewellery box and I think I took it off the day he walked out.

[crazygracieuk]

I took mine off 2 days after I kicked him out as it (the marriage) doesn't mean anything anymore.

[WaitingForMe]

I took both off the day I told him it was over. He also took his off... to throw across the room in anger.

It lived on the floor for about a week.

[Redwinekeepsmesane]

Took mine off the day I kicked him out. Still sitting with engagement and eternity ring somewhere in the house. Should sell them really as have no emotional attachment to them.

[SoHHKB]

FWIW, I keep meaning to ask my xh for his wedding ring so I can have all three made into a necklace or similar for our dds 18th - seems a shame to see gold and diamonds go to waste...

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

"when I find them, what should I do with them? "

Take them to a jewellers (not one of these Gold 4 U type sharks) and get a good price. Then use the money to buy something new that makes you happy

[UterusUterusGhaLaLaLaLaLi]

Just now, and I couldn't get them back on.

That's that then.

[imFINEthanks]

The day I told the cheating, lying twunt to leave forever. He took it with him 'for safe keeping' and I've never seen it again .

[ThereISaidIt]

I can't remember exactly, but I think it was when I made the decision that I was going to file for divorce.

It took ages for the mark it left on my finger to disappear. It felt like part of a healing process.

[lemonstartree]

The day I kicked him out. It was over and a very symbolic gesture...later sold platinum and diamond wedding ring for about 15% of its cost. The cheapskate never gave me an engagement ring!

[snowshapes]

About two years ago, but we are still married. I am not happy, but keep thinking I should give it another few months. Like some miracle will make everything okay.

[surreygrump]

Think I managed to leave it on for about 90 mins after he admitted the affair. I laid it on him as he lay on the couch guess he was in shock as I was and have remained really quite calm and dignified. Found it on bedside table think its in a pot and will pass it on. Guess it will not have same sentiment that I got from my Mum's if that makes sense

[KirstyWirsty]

When I found out about his affair I confiscated his and threw mine at him .. It bounced back to me and I stuck it in my pocket along with his

I started wearing my first engagement ring on my wedding finger instead but after a fortnight switched that to my right hand as I was worried about people congratulating me on my engagement

[LouMacca]

Thanks for replies everyone. Un-Mumsnet hugs to you all. My DS has given me the ring from The Lord of the Rings Lego set, I've put it on a necklace :-) H hasn't noticed.....yet!!!

[akaemmafrost]

While we were still married and living together. He'd been repeatedly unfaithful and they just didn't mean anything anymore.

He took them and pawned them. The wedding and engagement ring I don't care about but the eternity ring he gave me after ds was born meant a lot to me because of ds and I am still when I think about it and wish so much I still had it.