Just before Christmas, I found out that my husband cheated on me last year, the affair lasted 3 months and they continued texting each other for another 3 months after it ended. It also seems that my husband has been regularly visiting strip clubs for the last couple of years and blowing an average of £1000 each time on booze and lap dancers. To add insult to injury, my husband works for a top investment bank and could loose his job for indecent behaviour putting at risk our children's livelihoods as I was so stupid to give up my job in order to support him with his career.
I don't know what to do, he is full of remorse and volunteered me access to his phone, email accounts etc in order to regain my trust but can a wife really forgive and forget or will I never forget what I once forgave? I have two children aged 2 and 3. Anyone been through this?
Also, it is my understanding that if I want to file a divorce on the grounds of adultery, I have to do it in the next 6 months. Do I stand a better financial and custodial outcome if I file on the grounds of adultery or unreasonable behaviour (for being a borderline alcoholic and the irresponsible spending), can I state both? Any advise on this would be much appreciated.
Also, can anyone recommend a good solicitor in the London area? Cost is not a problem.
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Husband has been cheating, what to do? Can anyone recommend a solicitor?
confused66 · 02/01/2013 14:42
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