Advanced search

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

Home alone for nye - anyone else?

(96 Posts)
theendishere Mon 31-Dec-12 17:53:45

That's just it - thought I'd be fine with it but feeling quite sad. Not feeling that well either which doesn't help..

Ex is away with ds and friends either away or doing "family" things. My first Nye on my own. Think I'll treat it as any other day. Anyone else in the same position?

DeckSwabber Tue 01-Jan-13 10:24:47

Hardworker - could you make your NY resolution to get to the GP and get some help? ADs will probably help you more than painkillers.

I hope 2013 is kinder.

HardWorkerNotAFool Tue 01-Jan-13 09:47:25

Thanks tall and tired. Life is already looking a bit brighter now the sun is shining smile

tiredofwaitingforitalltochange Tue 01-Jan-13 02:17:17

Hardworker, happy new year and take care. Of course 2013 will be better x

tallwivglasses Tue 01-Jan-13 00:35:23

HardWorker (((unmumsnetty new year hugs))))

HardWorkerNotAFool Tue 01-Jan-13 00:29:12

DS asleep, STBXH banished to a different room.

I found out on NYE two years ago that he was cheating on me. I was in floods of tears at the time and at this time last year. This year, I am sad, but no tears. 2 years on and I am still stuck living with him, unable to sell up the house without ending up with masses of debt, for fear of losing residency of my DS and having to consider yet another career change (after the one I planned whilst the STBXH was still in play came back to bite me in the arse with the (in hindsight) terrible timing and its utter incompatibility with caring for DS on a daily basis). I'm clearly suffering from insomnia and depression and have been ever since it all came crashing down around my ears two years ago - instead of seeing a doctor, I am self-medicating with painkillers (albeit legally prescribed for something unrelated) which give me the effect I am looking for - a temporary inability to feel pain, both physically and emotionally.

Thirty minutes ago, I was outside having a cheeky fag and contemplating stepping out in front of a fast-moving car. Now, I'm shaking my head at my propensity for histrionic melodramatics.

2013 - I don't know if it will be better but I find it hard to see how it can be any worse than the preceding two years.

(I'm now off to have another cheeky fag - this time in the back garden, mind hmm)

KentuckyFriedChildren Tue 01-Jan-13 00:05:24

He didnt make it sad

MatureUniStudent Mon 31-Dec-12 23:49:15

ohhh what are we all watching - just turned the ITV news on but not sure if I should stay on it!

BelleoftheFall Mon 31-Dec-12 23:42:01

I am here by myself. This time last year I was alone too, waiting for my partner to come back the next day. Now I'm single and not waiting for anything, just by myself. I could have ventured into the city centre and found some people but I couldn't be bothered. I feel a bit conflicted because there's so much pressure to DO something, but I am happy indoors in the safe and warm, rather than out there with all the alcohol and trouble of getting home. Just trying to convince myself a bit, really :/ I feel really sad like I should have forced myself out.

KentuckyFriedChildren Mon 31-Dec-12 23:36:24

Im currently awaiting the arrival of dh from work. He is supposed to be here for the bells for the first time in 5 years however it is getting close now and I have no idea if he'll make it or not sad I was so excited too. <sigh>

aPirateInaPearTree Mon 31-Dec-12 23:28:12

am here alone, my 8th one. not alone completely as have dd. but it's a bit lonely.

oh have baileys too. am hoping for good positive things in 2013. and hopefully my last new yr alone for ever! x

Allergictoironing Mon 31-Dec-12 23:12:33

Happily home alone for NYE, which is how I like it. Used to spend the evening watching Manga films with a mate, but she has dogs (LOADS of dogs) so can't stay here, and I won't stay at hers as they pee, run through it then jump up over me! So I'm better off here than there, and better off not being the designated driver & having drunks throwing up over my car

DeckSwabber Mon 31-Dec-12 23:04:28

Starting to enjoy knowing how sozzled I'd be by now if I'd gone out, and knowing that I wouldn't have got home until about 2.

Happy New Year everyone! (especially those who are struggling tonight).

Googol Mon 31-Dec-12 23:03:44

Thank you tired. Yes its awful and I know it will be really hard at times but I know the future will be ok. Hopefully this time next year I can be like these lovely women who have got through it and have come out the other side.

SarahBumBarer Mon 31-Dec-12 23:01:54

Lord no theendishere your life now can be whatever you make of it.

NYE 2005 I was exactly where you are now. NYE 2007 I was home alone having been ill all Christmas and I accidentally poked my now DH on a dating website. First convo was me explaining why I was sadly home alone NYE. 5 days later we met and the rest is history. I may be still home alone on NYE thaks to DH working but all is soo good and I am sooo grateful I got through those first horrible months after splitting with ExH and had faith that the bad times would pass.

They will. xxxx

DizzyHoneyBee Mon 31-Dec-12 22:51:23

Hugs (well it is NYE and I am slightly sozzled) to all those who are alone and feeling lonely.

runningforthebusinheels Mon 31-Dec-12 22:50:05

I'm almost alone too- Have a very poorly dh and ds1 here. We've had to cancel our plans for tonight (which weren't that exciting tbh...) because of the flu. Dh & DS1 are watching Battlestar Galactica on Lovefilm and I'm on MN drinking wine Other 2 dc in bed.

Sorry to hear the awful stories here though. <offers hugs>

Corygal Mon 31-Dec-12 22:46:03

I had a power cut and sat for 2 hrs this evening, NYE, alone, cold, hungry and in the dark. Was feeling black and bitter.

Then a lovely man came from EDF and fixed it! In 30 mins!

Enough to make me most happy. Me and Mr Cory (cat) are nipping in early with some ham off the bone and prosecco.

E320 Mon 31-Dec-12 22:45:48

Yes, but not bothered, it is not the first time. Anyway as I am in Europe I only have another few minutes to go then I can go to bed, as long as there isn't the usual tirade of fireworks, which there will be.

tiredofwaitingforitalltochange Mon 31-Dec-12 22:43:59

Wow googol what a horrible situation.

You sound like a brave and strong woman though. Keep fighting and all the best for 2013 x

freeandhappy Mon 31-Dec-12 22:40:51

I'm in on my own too. Daughter with friends and son with his dad. Have it nice and cosy watching Robbie in concert. Not too bad. I am lonely tho sad

igotaway Mon 31-Dec-12 22:38:46

I'm not alone, have my son who is 22 pacing the floor and crying, having a full blown breakdown.
His ads are not working
Would still prefer this than being with the most abusive ex ever

Happy new year

Googol Mon 31-Dec-12 22:36:06

My young DSs are asleep, SBXH downstairs txting his married mistress not realising I know he wants to kick me and his sons out and move her and her kids into the family home.

Its the calm before the storm, my calmness helped by the purring cat on my knee while I watch tv in my bedroom.

2013 will be a rollercoaster but I'm determined to make the best of it.

theendishere Mon 31-Dec-12 22:30:03

Wow - didn't expect so many responses when I started this thread!!
Have had a couple of glasses of wine and a nice dinner - feeling quite tearful now though. Thinking of my future life alone, missing the nice things about stbex aand wondering if I should jut have put up with things

Redflagcatcher Mon 31-Dec-12 22:18:16

Happy new year everyone! Lovely to hear posts from those out of unworthy relationships. Just a few days out of a 18month waste of time relationship as the red flags of emotional abuse were flying!! I'm in tonight with my ds's who are now asleep. I have a glass of wine, mumsnet and tv. What a great way to spend NYE!! happy to be alone and calm :-) Work tomorrow or I'd be smashed by now!!

20092012 Mon 31-Dec-12 22:08:01

I may as well be here on my own

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now