Sorry if this is a bit ranty....
Background, my DH and I have been together for 7 years, married for 1.5. I am 27, he is 36. We moved to the UK together when I was 20, a few months after getting together. We have recently had a baby together and I think that has highlighted for me how selfish he is.
My DS is 7 months old and my DH has changed his nappy about 3 times. He has done 2 night feeds and then slept in until about 10am. I constantly ask for help, but even that makes him annoyed and I get, "can't you just do it?". He needed to do some work from him this weekend and asked me to put DS to bed 2 hours earlier than usual so I could help him. I actually out my foot down and said no and now he is saying that I need to stay up until 12am and help him (after looking after DS all day and then I will wake up at 4/5am for DS's night feed).
Looking back I can see that this is how he has always been. He got me fired from my last job because he got mad that I wouldn't leave early and bombarded me with emails, knowing my boss would see, until I gave in and left early.
He banned me from going on Facebook, even though it is my only way of contacting friends in my home country. I finally stood my ground and he has told me that if he sees any exes on there he will flip and basically background checks any guy friends on there.
He hates my mum and says that he doesn't want to move home cos he doesn't want to have to see her. He calls her all sorts of names.
To clarify, I have never cheated. I have probably been out 5 times without him in the past 7 years. He gets mad if I suggest going out and brings up the one time I stayed out all night ( at a girlfriends place cos it was too late to get a train home) and basically says he doesn't trust me, even though I don't even look at other guys cos he would get mad.
I love my son to bits and am so grateful to have him, but I feel like I have wasted my youth on my DH. I want to go back home, but he has this unrealistic sum of money in his head that he refuses to go home until we have. I would go home tomorrow if I could. I have only friends from mums groups cos I guess he sees them as harmless.
He yells at me, calls me names and swears, although he has been getting better. He says he loves me and buys me crazily expensive presents for Christmas and my birthday and sometimes for no reason. But this is probably so we never reach the target amount to go home!
I feel like I am in turmoil. Please offer some advice. Is this EA?
Thanks,
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Rant alert. Have I wasted the past 7 years of my 'youth?'
Saltytomato · 29/12/2012 15:25
He is a classic emotional abuser. Please get out while you can. And without wanting to alarm you, my exe started with all this sort of thing, jealousy/isolation etc, then did end up getting physical. 
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