I am on mat leave and do most of the housework. I sorted nursery places for the DC for when I go back to work. I did the primary school visits for DS for applying in January. I meal plan, shop and cook. I do all the bastard laundry. I have bought all the Christmas presents that aren't for me. I had a few hours to myself today to do a baby and child first aid training course I had chosen to do while DH had the DC. I am taking his mum to the carols at the local church tomorrow, even though I am an atheist, because she is a top MIL and I want to do something nice for her. I take the bins in for my neighbours. I am doing a reasonable job with the DC (so far).
Because I asked him not to leave my open makeup bag on top of the loo cistern above the open loo (he borrowed my tweezers) tonight I was criticising him, which apparently I always do, and I need to stop criticising him, like ever.
Because I did the washing up without checking with him first if he would rather do that or bathe the DC, I am making all the decisions for him and controlling him (he was in the bathroom for 20 mins after tea, it needed doing and the DC were happy to play nicely on the floor together for ten mins while I washed up) so I bathed them as well to shut him up.
Tonight he told me, in the DC's hearing, that I m horrible and awful because of this.
So I have told him that I am actually a good person and not horrible, actually, but that I do feel taken for granted and bullied. No reply.
I have a great life in other respects and sure, things are busy at the moment but they are also fun, but my husband can't stand me. He may be a bit depressed (work is massively getting him down at the moment) but then again he could just be being unpleasant.
We have no sex life at all because I have consant abdominal pain following having the DC but also because I cannot bring myself to have sex with someone who can happily sit on his bum watching me do housework at 9pm. But his work Secret Santa got him an Anne Summers sex guide, so we should be back on track in no time .
Can someone tell me it's all okay and just Xmas stress? I am too tired to fight and I haven't even returned to work yet.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
No, actually, DH, I am not horrible.
13 replies
openerofjars · 15/12/2012 20:10
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.