My lovely DD is 2nd year at uni. Shes bright and done very well in life, shes a wonderfully balanced, confident, caring and fun girl.
She has had one serious boyfriend before which ended about a year ago due to long distance. Since then a boy who was her best friend in first year then lead her along a lot, sleeping with her and convincing her something would happen then ditching her. I think this has really hurt her and she seems very vary of boys being players now.
She just phoned me in tears, it is quite unlike her to be so sensitive and hung up and insecure. She said shes had days on end of all her housemates being off with their respective boyfriend/girlfriend or cooking dinner with them etc and its hit her how everyone is 'pairing up' or has someone and she doesnt.
She seemed to think she'll never meet anyone at uni as she has set friendship groups, is on an almost all-girls course and tried joining socieites but didnt enjoy them. Shes planning a career in a very woman-dominated field.
She just said she feels so alone and pathetic.
I can see its tricky having couples flash the happy side of their relationship in her face but i tried to reassure her its a good time to be single, make the most of a good time to 'find herself' and do what she wants when she wants.
I said once shes busy and loving being single that will be the time someone pops up.
She hasnt gone out tongiht because she'd be the only single one.
I suspect a lot of it is, as she said, she is very tired and has worked hard all term and is just ready to come home for some tlc and to see her lovely old school friends and spent time with family.
I just dont know what else to do though. I hate seeing my baby like this, its so unlike her.
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How do I convince DD(20) it is OK to be single?
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Happymum22 · 11/12/2012 21:28
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