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Am I over thinking things?

(7 Posts)
mousseschoice Thu 06-Dec-12 18:39:38


I have been single for about 4 months and have just suddenly seen a friend in a different light... We bumped into each other in the pub on Monday afternoon and 100% clicked. We like the same things, have lots in common and within a few hours we were holding hands under the table... (we were in a group btw)
He kissed me goodnight and I swear the earth moved and there were fireworks etc.
On Tuesday he messaged me via facebook and said he couldn't wait to see me again etc. He has only been single for a few months so we both said we'd hang out together for a bit before moving things on a bit.
We met up yesterday as a group and everything went brilliant again. I messaged him to say I was still thinking about him when I got home. He read the message but didn't reply...
Today he has been totally silent aside from one message (replying to a question) saying he couldn't come over as he's on a works doo.
I really like this guy, I never lose my head over anyone, but I am 90% sure he has the status of being "The One". As I write this I know it is all happening fast, but what I want to know is -why be so full on and then virtually ignore me the next day?? He has had my number since Monday but hasn't text, just made contact via facebook.
Agghhhh someone please give a a good talking to!!

Xales Thu 06-Dec-12 18:46:50

*peers sternly over glasses.

You haven't even been on a date with this guy! Just out as a group a couple of times.

Stop planning your future/kids etc already.

How mad would you consider a guy who came on this heavy after a kiss and a couple of group evenings? You would run like crazy.

Lavenderhoney Thu 06-Dec-12 19:18:16

Don't contact him! He knows how to get hold of yousmile

Go out, get busy and be patient. You might meet someone else in the meantime who is more in tune with you and what you want. You are not in a relationship with him, so don't become unavailable to others or give off vibes you have a bf.

FreelanceMama Thu 06-Dec-12 19:30:14

Agree with above - he knows you're interested and you'll definitely run into him again. Don't text, don't message him on facebook, don't put status updates thinking about him reading them, don't talk to friends in the same group about him.

You set the ground rules - taking it steady, so stick to it.

Do use the buzz of him finding you attractive to give you the confidence to flirt with new men.

Ooh but how lovely to have a sparky snog!

SomethingProfound Thu 06-Dec-12 19:54:06

Sorry to be harsh but I think you may have come on a little strong, and now he is backing off, DON'T contact him again, leave it be, if he wants to contact you he can.

SorryMyLollipop Thu 06-Dec-12 20:05:16

He might not really be totally single. Maybe that is why he contacted you via FB? So no trace on his phone?

I think it seems weird that he hasn't really rung/texted you since Monday.

I also agree that you may have freaked him out by coming on a bit strong.

ClippedPhoenix Fri 07-Dec-12 11:37:10

He's not as into you as you are him OP. He's definitely cooled off.

Take a step back and get on with other things.

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