My partner of two years has recently moved in. I have a daughter who is three from a previous relationship, I was a single mum on benefits before he moved in. When he moved in my money instantly stopped. I managed to get myself a part time job 14hrs per week to bring a bit of money in. He works full time 38 hours per week. We are still sorting out tax credit forms and housing benefit, although I dont think we are entitled to housing benefit as he earns too much.
We are finding it really hard to make ends meet, I cant do more hours at work as they only want me to do 14 and anymore would mean I would have to pay for childcare as my mum is only available three times a week when I work.
I have a car that im getting rid of as its costing too much, he has a car also that he needs for work. mine is an old heap that needs scrapped, its just sitting in the car park doing nothing, eating up my bank balance so we were thinking of putting me on his insurance instead.
We had a big falling out last night as he thinks its a good idea to find a flat with his friend and split the bills (his friend works full time so would be earning much more than i do) he thinks by doing this he can save more for the mortgage deposit (we are currently renting). If he moved out I would have to claim benefits as a single parent again and give up my job as its not enough hours to pay everything on my own. His friend who he wants to share a flat with is a total man whore who would bring women back to the flat, lots of boys nights in etc I just dont want my partner house hunting with him when it should be us house hunting and settling down. I would rather be struggling and be together than be on benefits again just so we can save for a mortgage which would no doubt have us skint anyway!
what do you think?
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honeysmummy1 · 04/12/2012 13:00
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