Dad and Christmas

[123canyoucopyme]

So last Christmas I was very ill after having my DD. My dad had moved in temporarily over Christmas to look after me and DD whilst DH was at work.

On Christmas Eve I was feeling a bit better so Dad went out to see his friends. He came home blind drunk and started a fight with DH. I was really quite scared. He ended up storming off after having a go at my DH.

He went off at midnight and didn't tell us where he was going. He was so drunk and it was absolutely freezing outside. He had left his phone at ours so we had no way of contacting him to see if he was okay.

Now I think this was really selfish and was so cross with him that on Christmas Day we woke up not knowing where he was or if he was hurt.

I've not seen him since that night. I know he's okay as he's been in contact with my sister.

I really don't want him being around my family if es getting so drunk and so aggressive .... But it's Christmas coming up soon and I do feel bad.

What should I do? I don't really want my DD growing to love him for him to get drunk and upset her. He used to do that when I was a kid :(

[HisstletoeAndWhine]

Leave it.

It's your sister's turn. You deserve a peaceful Christmas!

[fiventhree]

Agree

[HettySunshine]

If you feel like you should see him would it be possible to just see him for a couple of hours during the day? That way if he chooses to go out and get spangled in the evening it's his problem!

Having said that though, What is he like when he's sober? If you don't enjoy his company much then either perhaps it would be best to avoid.

I don't think it's entirely fair to just pass him on to your sister though - presumably you don't want her Christmas to be ruined any more than your own? Perhaps you could speak to her and see if you could work something out between you so you get to see each other and spend a small amount of time with your df but then send him home before the drinking gets underway.

Good luck x

[Lueji]

Has he asked to see you?
Apologised?

If not, forget him.

If yes, perhaps meet him before Christmas and see how things get before committing to a special day.