My beautiful, fiery, generous, wonderful, funny, quirky, saviour-of-the-world 18yr old DD has got herself mixed up with a very disturbed man and it is killing me.
Over the course of the last 18 months she has struggled at school and messed up her ASs, dropped to about 6.5 stone, caught an STD and had a termination. The latest seems to be that her friends have now walked away saying that she is no longer someone that they want to be around. She has just told me and I am sitting here sobbing.
He is controlling, jealous and abusive and she just can't see it. He has cheated on her more times than I can count (and that's just the times she's told me about!). He hates all of her male friends and regularly treats her like shit in public. She assures me that he is loving and funny etc the rest of the time, but doesn't seem to get that doesn't balance out the way he behaves for the rest of the time.
She told me last night that he went to see someone about his anxiety and has been referred to a psychoanalyst as they believe he has underlying issues - no shit!
She knows very well how I feel about him and whenever she tells me yet another horror story about him I don't start screaming and shouting (learned that lesson early on when she just clammed up completely!). I try to explain how his behaviour is SO wrong and how he is manipulating everything about her life, but so far to no effect. She understands that he is wrong, but just doesn't seem able to leave him.
I just want to ban her from seeing/communicating with him ever again, but know that it wouldn't work. How the hell do I get her away from this soul destroying relationship?
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I'm terrified DD is going under
DDinpain · 01/12/2012 20:25
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