I have a dear friend who is going through the most awful time with her abusive ex. I can't give any details because it's not my story to tell, and some matters are sub judice but the local Women's Aid worker says this is the worst abuse case she has seen in eight years, and he has never even lifted a finger to her; the abuse is all emotional and financial.
He seems to act on impulse, but the way things are panning out it looks more and more as if he has planned it all in advance. If he does action A, she will respond in manner B, which will lead to action C and so on, and she's entirely trapped, nowhere to go but to dance to his tune.
But I'm having trouble believing anyone could be as sick and evil as this man, if he really has conciously sat down and thought, "Right, if I do this, these consequences will occur (to other people) and those dreadful outcomes will please me." I have never been in an abusive relationship, so maybe that's why I can't get my head round it?
So, do they plan it, or is he just so evil it comes naturally to him?
Have to nip out for a wee while, back soon.
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Abusive men, do they plan it all?
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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 24/11/2012 12:28
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