He's losing interest isnt he?

[BandOfMares]

When he comes over he just slumps in front if the tv or falls asleep, he never chats to me on Facebook anymore on the nights we're apart and the texts are getting less and less. Last night we took my kids to see the Christmas lights been switched on. My eldest was playing up a bit being a typical teenager and boyfriend just seemed like he couldn't be arsed with it anymore. Raced off in front leaving me trailing behind him, grabbed a couple of beers on return to my house, slumped in front if the tv and said he was staying up after I'd gone to bed. When he came to bed, I tried to kiss/touch him and he said we should go to sleep and physically divided us with the duvet!!!

Thus morning, he hasn't been in touch at all.

So, he's losing interest isn't he? I really like him though so am not just going to ltb ... Do I just give him space or what?

[BertieBotts]

Well, you can't have a relationship on your own however much you like him :( Sorry. If he wants out then it's going to happen sooner or later.

Why don't you talk to him, say you've noticed him being a bit distant lately and ask if there's something troubling him or if he thinks the relationship is running its course? Will be a hard convo to have but at least you'll know where you are with it.

[fluffyraggies]

How long have you been with him though OP?

You say boyfriend which makes me think 'weeks', in which case yes, sounds like the end of the road, dump him. Sorry.

But you could have been together a couple of years, which makes me think there could be some explanation for his behaviour other than his feeling for you. In which case - you need to be brave and talk to him.

[ClippedPhoenix]

If some bloke acted like that in my house I'd kick him right out, who does he think he is?

[dequoisagitil]

Sounds like he's the grumpy teenager.

If you don't want to dump him, it looks like your choices are to wait until he calls it off or let it fade away. You sound like a convenient place to spend the evening rather than the love of his life.

[Helltotheno]

It's already over op. Don't give him a chance to do the dumping. You could send him an explanatory text, something along the lines of 'You're dumped. Delete my number.'

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

You really like him?... I'd save your affection for someone who deserves it quite honestly. Why not 'ltb'? What's the point in dragging it out?

[waltermittymissus]

If he's being a prick because your CHILD acted up then bin him. Was he off with your children?

How long are you together?

[BandOfMares]

Only been together a few months, he's never off with the children, in fact he took my eldest to takeaway shop with him to give me a break later in the night. He's text me now too ... I just feel sometimes that he sees me as nothing more than a friend he occasionally sleeps with. Suppose ill just have to wait and see :-(

[WhoNickedMyName]

He's already dumped you, he just hasn't got around to telling you yet while your place continues to be a convenient doss house for him to chill out at, when he fancies a night away from wherever he lives.

I'd just text him "you're dumped" and leave it at that. I'll bet you won't even get a response from him.

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

Why 'wait and see'? Sounds like you've got the measure of him pretty well. You're there for his convenience, he can't be bothered any more but he keeps you sweet with occasional nice behaviour or a text so that you don't kick him out. You're already 'seen'.... 'waiting' is just wasting your time.

[waltermittymissus]

He's not invested in this relationship. Which is a shame, he shouldn't have met your children if he wasn't in it for the long haul.

You either need to have a serious chat about what exactly you both want or cut him loose.

You're hanging on waiting for him to change when it sounds like you're a convenience!

[Katinedinburgh]

I think you deserve so much better. I know it's hard to see from the inside, but if he won't talk about what's bothering him and doesn't seem to be making the effort, I'd talk about parting ways.

Hope you're okay.

[ClippedPhoenix]

You've been with him a few month and he's like this?

You're going to "wait and see"?

I want to come round there and shake you.

[Apocalypto]

A lot of the posts on here are from people who are in marriages like that and in a dilemma because it's a hassle to exit a marriage.

Why you'd put up with this when you're not there yet and still a free agent I have no idea.

[startlife]

I think it's a shame you have blamed yourself - 'He's losing interest in me', rather than 'my partner of a few months has now revealed his true colours'

I think this is what it's mostly about - he's probably the type of person who can't keep up the presence for a long time.

Honestly I can't think of any reason why you would tolerate this. Even IF he had an issue he should at least try and talk to you. I think he just setting your expectation for how he will treat you (and no doubt any other partner he was with). It's your choice, do you really settle for this??

Has this relationship moved on too quickly? seems to be a bit full on if he's involved with your dc's after a few months.

[MumsGoToReykjavik]

Geez I wouldn't even put up with this after 20 years and 4 kids, why on EARTH are you putting up with it after a matter of weeks?

Surely you can't think that any man is better than no man??

[AnnaFurLact1c]

you again?

[WhoNickedMyName]

Anna my thoughts exactly can't believe I got sucked in AGAIN!

[AnnaFurLact1c]

I know

I can spot it a mile off these days.

[homeofhelp]

talk to him he may be stressed about something. but its not a reason to treat you the way he is. after you talk to him and he still treats you like this then defiantly leave as after the talk his actions will show you who he really is. then be on your own for a while do the things you like do what you want then maybe you will find someone better