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How soon into a new relationship so cracks tend to appear?

(7 Posts)
BandOfMares Tue 20-Nov-12 20:19:14

I posted earlier about our sex life going downhill, truth is, it isn't just that.
For the past few months I've had such fun with this guy, we've been all over the place, done loads of nice things and he's been great company for me. I was pretty much obsessed with him for a while!!

Now, 4 months in I feel cracks are appearing. We had arranged for him to stay at my house tonight - he turned up at 7pm and promptly fell asleep on the sofa. He's still asleep now and I'm bored and fed up.

I'm starting to wonder if we are as into each other as we first thought. Is it normal for the true picture to become clearer at 4 months in?

SorryMyLollipop Tue 20-Nov-12 20:34:13

It really shouldn't be like this. I have been with BF for 6 months and we are on the up and up. Sexually and emotionally.

I would move on. It sounds a bit like a flash in the pan.

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 20-Nov-12 20:38:24

I've ditched people after a few weeks before now.... and for far more trivial reasons than falling asleep when they're meant to be hanging on my every word! smile Life's far too short to waste it hoping some dead-beat will buck their ideas up.

DioneTheDiabolist Tue 20-Nov-12 20:40:29

4months is a bit soon for that level of can't be arsedness.

The initial attraction will be waning at this stage if it is nothing more than sexual.

maleview70 Tue 20-Nov-12 20:41:16

When you post twice in the space of a day about him!
Clearly you want more from him that he wants to give.
Stick with someone closer to your age if you want an active partner and someone who wants to stay up shagging all night.

joblot Tue 20-Nov-12 21:29:50

Wake him up? And talk? Sounds llike you're bored of him generally however

SorryMyLollipop Tue 20-Nov-12 21:55:44

I think you need to talk to him. Be honest and say you want/need more sex and intimacy.

Is there a reason for him to fall asleep so early? My BF works rotating shifts and borders on narcolepsy as a result, so for me it's forgiveable.

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