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My ex texting my friend for discreet fun

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cantfindamnnickname Mon 19-Nov-12 20:34:02

Ok so this is really bizarre, I have an ex - separated 2 months ago, it is most definitely over. I have been going out with my friend dancing and drinking, I dont know her that well but we get on very well. I trust her.

She has been receiving text messages from a no she doesnt know - stalkerish messages, Ive seen you around, I know where you live etc etc
She ignored them and a week or so later got some more messages so she decided to reply to find out who it was. It turns out its my ex!!
Friend immediately phoned me to tell me.

Why oh why would he do this?

If he wants me to know - why? Does he want me to be jealous - so dont give a shit
does he want me to cause a scene - not happening!
Is he expecting her not to tell me and what - destroy a friendship? Stop me having a friend to go out with?

I can not work out what is going on his head.
I dont intend to do anything at all because i think they may have more impact than reacting.

scentednappyhag Mon 19-Nov-12 20:36:42

Just ignore.
It doesn't matter why he's doing it, you aren't together anymore.
Enjoy your nights out with your friend smile

Leverette Mon 19-Nov-12 20:39:50

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MmeLindor Mon 19-Nov-12 20:44:31

Tell her to text back, 'If you text me again, I am going to the police' and to keep copies of the texts.

Don't worry about why he is doing it, just be happy that your wanker-o-meter is working, and be glad he is your ex.

cantfindamnnickname Mon 19-Nov-12 20:48:14

oh i am so relieved he is my ex - tricks like this may be realise exactly why I left him

BillyBollyBandy Mon 19-Nov-12 20:54:35

My ex (were together 4 years) snogged my "best" mate 3 weeks after we split up and raced around to tell me. He was hurt and wanted to hit back as I had dumped him.

Safe to say it reinforced my decision, and made me take a good hard look at that friend as well. It is good your friend told you.

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