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pregnant and alone

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winkle1990 Mon 19-Nov-12 19:01:15

hi everyone i have literally just this morning found out im roughly 6 weeks pregnant, just over a week ago i broke up with the father because he was controlling, accusing and wouldn't give me any breathing space, after he left he was very abusive and threatening via txt message to me and my mum. Needless to say my mum detests him now and says if i get back with him she dont know if she can stick around. and that i am not allowed to tell him about the baby because it will be another way of him controlling me, so the one person who should be supporting me wont be ( he already has 4 other children and he is 23) Also I already have a daughter from a previous relationship who has just turned two. i feel like im at a loss, im lonely without him and was tempted to give him a second chance but after what my mum, iv also gone on his facebook and seen he has sent about 15 different girls messages with his number to txt, im absolutely devastated i dont know what to do at all, i dont see how i can go through the pregancy and have this baby without telling him but if i do i run the risk of losing my mum, so far i feel as if its going to do nothing but cause problems, whatever i choose im at a loss, as my mum says me and the babies deserve so much better than him which is true but im so overwhelmed by doing it all on my own (before i found out me and my mum were making plans about me and my daughter moving back in with mum and today finding out im pregnant she has decided she doesnt think she will be able to cope with it) i really dont know what to do i just feel so alone iv got no one who understands. i see what my mum is saying as it is quite true, she calls him a mother's worst nightmare, but i cant help that i love him and miss him and want him to be there for our baby, i just dont know what to do :'(

madam1mim Mon 19-Nov-12 20:01:14

He sounds like such a tosser. Like full on Jeremy Kyle scumbag ! 4 kids and he's only 23??! how is he withthe kids he's already got? I know u love him and miss him but he obviously doesn't feel that way about u if he's already messaging other girls. U know u deserve better and so do your children. Try and picture yourself a few months from now when u will look back and think what a lucky escape u had . I wouldn't usually think its good to not tell someone they have a child but maybe your mums right, he would def use your child to control you. Perhaps uoi could get legal advice so your child child have a relationship without you having anything to for with him? Good lucky this must be a really awful.time x

izzyizin Mon 19-Nov-12 20:05:19

Why have you started 2 identical threads? I suggest you report this one and ask for it to be be deleted so that all/any advice can be concentrated in one place.

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