went off on a rant on another thread, so after reading thread after thread the last few weeks I am just so, so, I dont even know WHAT about the state of things..... and ironically I was IN a very abusive relationship for 9 years (the last but worse in a succession of progressively more damaging relationships through my youth)
why is it always the woman who seems to want to/have to 'try' to save the marriage, whilst the narc-y bastards just carry on as is with no trying whatsoever. what does that say to our daughters?
are THEYtrying?? or just trying to remain in control?
A relationship takes 2. Thats both people committed to being together, to loving and supporting each other, and working together to make life better for the both of them and any kids. Of course there are times when life is tough, when things happen, but this ongoing name calling and entitlement and just downright nastyness without a shred of love in evidence, and too, too many women just taking it, supposedly for the sake of their kids, for their marriage.
What is it about marriage, or even relationships in general, that so many women seem to just hang on in there? almost as if they have been brainwashed that putting up with anything rather than leaving. I know, I did it myself, and to this day I still dont know why, when I KNEW it was a bloody miserable existance, why I didnt just say 'fuck this' and go.
We only get one life, why waste so so much of it entrenched in the misery of being with such horrible horrible men (though I accept it can be gender reversed btw, but women seem more likely to cling on and try to 'save' something which died the moment they signed on the line/moved in/got pregnant/became dependant)
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NettleTea · 19/11/2012 13:56
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