I feel so low

[bml12]

I have posted on here before.

Separating from husband of 18 years - two teenage children and house on the market.

Met a lovely guy a couple of months ago who bombarded me with texts and phone calls. We met whenever we could and he talked about our future together. HE left his girlfriend of 7 months to be with me but as soon as I slept with him he went back to her (I only slept with him once and this was the first time I had been with someone other than my husband in 20 years). It was a massive committment from me.

I am absolutely distraught. The thing is I had absolutely fallen for him and I honestly thought he had for me. I believed everything he said and promised me and I cant get over it. I think of him constantly and am having to be so strong so as not to text him.

I spoke to him this week and he was crying down the phone telling me that he was so sorry and never meant to let me down.

I tell myself everyday that he was a complete arsehole who has treated me appallingly but I just cant get over him. I expect this is because I am splitting with my husband at the same time - I have two big emotional issues going on and my head is all over the place.

This guy gave me the push I needed to separate and sell the house but now I face a lonely future alone with my children.

I know I ned to be strong but please give me some words of support.

[Whatnowffs]

Why did you separate from your husband? I hope to God it wasn't for his man!

[ErikNorseman]

He wasn't lovely at all, he pursued you when he was in a relationship then dumped you after a shag. And what were you thinking, getting involved when he wasn't single? That is a clear sign that you are not ready to date. Steer clear of men for a good while until you can see more clearly.

[DonkeysDontRideBicycles]

Okay with hindsight you should have done this or said that, too late now so just detach from him, chalk it up to experience and get on with life. If this were one of your DCs wouldn't your advice be the same? Try steering clear of men altogether for a while, get that bastard-radar properly working again.