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I told him it was over - he handed me a suicide note.

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Kixicle Sat 17-Nov-12 12:52:38

I didn't want to say anything in front of the kids, I had been putting it off because I knew in my heart that I couldn't make it work. So he wormed it out of me by asking what was wrong and pushing even after I told him to please wait until the DC were picked up to go out.

He phoned his mum in front of me, having said he didn't want the DC to go out because he would "do something stupid" if they weren't around. His father had already left, so we did a charade while he picked them up - I guess my MIL told him when he got hte DC back to their house.

He kept saying he didn't want it to be over, and then a little while after they left he came and handed me a suicide note. I stopped him going out and managed to talk him down - he's sat in a kind of stupor in the living room now while I'm upstairs. (I can hear him every time he moves.)

I don't know what to do. I want the DC, to hold them and hug them because I still don't know what happens next. I didn't want it to be like this, and now I just feel lost and trapped here, because I can't leave him alone. I'm sure deep down he knows that. He won't talk about what we do next, won't talk at all. I'm scared to call his parents and tell them he wants to kill himself, but I have to don't I? I just want the DC to be okay and not see their father like this.

It's all gone horribly wrong and I'm just totally lost.

BerylStreep Wed 21-Nov-12 16:22:25

Women's Aid might be able to recommend a good solicitor. They did for a family member of mine.

Yes, remember, he lies. He lied to the police and said he hadn't threatened suicide, until you showed them the note. Make sure you hold on to the note.

Kixicle Wed 21-Nov-12 16:30:50

I don't have the note any more. I gave it to the police officer and H said they gave it to him and he destroyed it. I do have a photo of it though.

amillionyears Wed 21-Nov-12 17:20:54

I would print out some hard copies of his note, and keep them somewhere safe.
You dont know if and when you might need them in the future.

Am surprised that the police gave his note back to him.

BerylStreep Wed 21-Nov-12 18:10:34

I would check with the police whether they did indeed give him back the note. I too would be very surprised if they did. Another lie maybe? I bet he doesn't realise you have a photo of it.

I 2nd the suggestion of printing out a hard copy (or two) of the photo.

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