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Might this be nice? Or is it wrong?

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WantSomethingNice Fri 16-Nov-12 17:04:22

Namechanged for this, as I'm not sure if I am being nice or not.

I've been single for 18mths, dated a bit, but not really clicked with anyone, well, there was one but he was not really interested in a relationship, or seeing me more than every 3 weeks for sex

But, one man, I met on the dating site 6mths ago. He's a lovely man, but I didn't feel the 'I fancy you' spark, so I friendzoned him. We still went out every couple of weeks to see a band or for a drink, he's been to my house (brought his guitar, we had the best night), and I to his lovely clean tidy but bohemian flat.

So the crux of it is, I slept with him last night. I still don't feel that mad insane lust spark, but he is such a lovely, lovely man. And it was great.

He's not conventionally attractive - and please don't flame me for being honest, this is what I am struggling with: He is short and quite overweight as am I but and all my previous partners have been footballers quite attractive.

But I like his mind, he's doing a PhD, and we can talk for hours about everything. He likes the same films, music, tv, politics, lifestyle as me, and he really really likes me.

I need to lose some weight and have decided to join a gym - he's joining with me, I can't help thinking about how much nicer it will be when he is slimmer. I feel as shallow as a fucking teaspoon.

He's supposed to be coming over for dinner on Monday (we are both busy til then)

What do I DO?? Help me wise vipers.

Gay40 Tue 04-Dec-12 13:55:13

I am still laughing at the thought of someone having the wrong shaped bush (WTF)

WantSomethingNice Tue 04-Dec-12 21:50:21

Wrong shaped bush? confused Oh my grin

Ok, one thing I do have to deal with is the SNORING. Oh my. He did say that he snored, and I brushed it off as it can't be that bad and it doesn't matter as I sleep like I'm dead.

It IS that bad.

Would earplugs be terribly rude? I'm knackered...

lookingfoxy Tue 04-Dec-12 22:25:45

No and get him to get some of those strips for his nose as well, my dp currently been in the spare room for months due to snoring, lack of sleep is the quickest route to resentment (and wanting to stove their skull in while their snoring) or is that just me grin

ClippedPhoenix Tue 04-Dec-12 22:32:52

Ugly men are ok for a while grin

lookingfoxy Tue 04-Dec-12 22:35:42

Oh and all my 'crushes' have grown as i've got to know someone and how great they are, not on the way they look.
My friends will always tell you I go for personality, NOT looks, but to me they're blooming gorgeous.
Current dp (mr snorey) is a good few inches shorter than me, rapidly balding, grey, 13 years older and bit of a belly.
Im 3 months pregnant and ecstatic to be with such great guy.
Oh and my bush is always the wrong shape lol.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Tue 04-Dec-12 22:41:15

OP - listen to me carefully.

Earplugs. Have. Saved. My. Marriage.

That is all. As you were.

TheSecondComing Tue 04-Dec-12 22:48:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

piprabbit Tue 04-Dec-12 22:53:42

Tubbiness is not a reason to push someone into losing weight unless they really want to.

Snoring caused by tubbiness is a very good reason to lose a bit of weight.

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